friendship advice

[policybabe]

hi, i'm new to mumsnet and wondering if anyone out there could offer me some friendship advice? I became friends with a couple of women last year who are both lovely but have completley different lifestyles to me - they are financially very very comfortable and don't work, whereas I work part time, study for my degree, juggle family life, badly, and struggle to make ends meet most of the time!! Of themselves they are really lovely people but my daily life demands seem so different than theirs. Recently they're behaving like i've offended them in some way, but haven't said what the problem is. I'm wondering if this friendship is worth the effort - should i go and talk to them, cold shoulders and all, or carry on with life with my other friends? I have to see them at school during the week, but i'm worried that saying something will make matters worse - it takes me back to my school days

School playgrounds always take us back to our school-days! But, you're all adults now and so the adult way of resolving this is to stop presuming why the friendships have faltered and just speak to them, directly and honestly.

Say that you've got the impression you've offended them in some way, really value their friendship and want to know if there is something amiss?

No adult friend worth pursuing a relationship with, will react badly to this.

Dealing with the situation openly and honestly - and where all parties can emerge from the interaction with their dignity intact - means that you can hold your head up in the playground because you have dealt with the situation as an adult.