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Poll does jealousy ever have a place in a healthy relationship? & 'jealousy test'

48 replies

electra · 22/02/2010 11:03

I think no.

I would be interested to hear what you all think about this. For me, jealousy is destructive and I agree with what is said about it in Othello; 'the monster that mocks the meat it feeds on'

I found this;

Jealousy Test

I scored only 3%.......but this left me thinking - is that too low and does it mean I am detached?

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 22/02/2010 19:29

11 per cent.

My DH scarcely has a jealous cell in his body, to the extent that he even suggested I sleep with an ex (with whom I had unresolved issues) to get it out of my system. Eventually he admitted he might feel a teensy bit jealous if I took him up on his suggestion. I felt glad about that, actually!!

madhairday · 22/02/2010 19:29

I scored 16 and got this

you are extremely secure, strong, and independent. You know that if your partner ever leaves you, you will survive with your self-esteem and dignity intact.

but I don't entirely agree, my answers were based on the fact that I implicitly trust dh rather than not caring and not being bothered if he leaves me. can be read as both ways I guess

LeQueen · 22/02/2010 19:30

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tallulahbelly · 22/02/2010 20:01

DH is away on business in Milan atm. They're gearing up for fashion week and yesterday he told me that by the end of the week his hotel will be stuffed with models.

And I still managed to score 7.

He also recently had an erotic dream about one of his favourite film stars. It was Clint Eastwood.

DH was so disturbed I had to spend quite a while debriefing him

ps Madhair - I got that. Does everyone get that unless they tick 'I stabbed him for helping an old lady across the road'?

Kactus · 22/02/2010 21:39

I scored 24...which is less than I thought it was going to be!

ReneRusso · 22/02/2010 22:08

I scored 15. Quite surprised, thought I might score higher, because I don't really trust DH 100% (too much history). Where was the question "how often do you snoop on your partners emails?"

LaurieFairyCake · 22/02/2010 22:17

Like the OP I scored 3%.

According to the test results it means I am "extremely secure, strong, and independent. You know that if your partner ever leaves you, you will survive with your self-esteem and dignity intact. You realize that even though you might love your partner very much, s/he is not the only fish in the sea, and that you would eventually find happiness with someone else"

that sums me up

festivefreakout · 22/02/2010 22:20

I got 0% too. Frankly I'd think it was weird if my boyfriend DIDN'T fantasise about actresses. Oh, and I dont' believe in monogamy anyway, heheh

ClaireDeLoon · 22/02/2010 22:26

27% for me, I don't think I'm excessively jealous, but having been there in the past (my most significant ex got engaged about 6 weeks after we split, had been emotionally cheating but not had sex he admitted/claimed) I do have moments of wondering, not down to DP but down to me and my past.

Eglu · 22/02/2010 22:29

I scored 9. I thought I would be higher than that.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 22/02/2010 22:39

I scored 20.

Is there a version for men to take?

jasper · 22/02/2010 23:28

0
not a surprise

wastwinsetandpearls · 22/02/2010 23:34

I scored 5% I think perhaps because I would mention his rude dream in a humourous way and I would be a little bothered if he was away. I wouldn't be bothered because I was jealous but because I would miss him.

I have no reason to be jealous, dp adores me.

Bleatblurt · 22/02/2010 23:38

Why would anyone be bothered about a sex dream anyway?

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electra · 22/02/2010 23:38

Yes, there is a version for men - I think if you scroll down you can click on a link which says 'take more tests'.

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electra · 22/02/2010 23:42

'Frankly I'd think it was weird if my boyfriend DIDN'T fantasise about actresses.'

Yes, I agree completely! I wouldn't want to be with a man who didn't enjoy looking at attractive women. I think I would conclude that he clearly wasn't into sex as much as me and that we probably weren't compatible!

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MrsForgetful · 22/02/2010 23:58

i scored 46

i expected higher

proves that i am getting better at 'letting go'... as a month ago i'm sure i would have scored 100

Floopy21 · 23/02/2010 13:26

28 here too, although I do have slight ishoooos at the moment! Going to send it to DH, bet he's much lower.

VictorineMeurent · 23/02/2010 16:16

I wanted to know all about the dream about the actress so we could act it out - that wasn't an option!

minipie · 23/02/2010 16:26

madhairday said:

"I scored 16 and got this

you are extremely secure, strong, and independent. You know that if your partner ever leaves you, you will survive with your self-esteem and dignity intact.

but I don't entirely agree, my answers were based on the fact that I implicitly trust dh rather than not caring and not being bothered if he leaves me. can be read as both ways I guess"

completely agree. (I got 16 too).

drloves8 · 23/02/2010 16:45

i got 17. ha ha ha lol .
no mention of looking through dh`s pockets ,phone or car then .

Dominique07 · 23/02/2010 16:54

That's a good test!
I scored 23% but I think after being together nearly 6 years, talking and talking and talking about our relationship and other people's we both know what's what.
At the beginning, when I was younger and less sure of our relationship and relationships in general I might have been more jealous.

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electra · 26/02/2010 09:23

Yeah, I was definitely more jealous when I was younger...

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