Need some advice please

[Ladyscratt]

My mum has my DD usually every other Sunday for a few hours, they get to see her and I get a bit of me time.

She is coming up 6 and is unable to hold her oppinions back on things. My mother is disabled and unable to look after the house so it is a bit grubby and smelly.

Step father brings DD back today and said that DD had been naughty, she told my mother that the house was stinking and was more stinking than her house. I rang my mother after SFather had gone and my mother said that DD had upset her with the comment as she tries her best to keep the place clean.

I am annoyed because DD is only 6. Yet I know she shouldn't have said these things, my mother is also obese and DD has told her what a fat belly she has on occasions which has usually been overlooked. I have tried to explain to DD about being rude and not saying rude things, but now I am scared to let go anywhere with anyone for fear of her upsetting people. My mother should have been a bit more dismissive shouldn't she??

Perhaps you could gently point out to your six year old that some things hurt peoples' feelings and are best not said. she should say them to you if she must, but not to anyone else as they get upset. It is a good time for her to learn that disabled people have difficulty with housework and get fat as they cannot exercise. That's why you like her to take exercise. She probably will be very upset to realise that she has hurt her gran's feelings. She might welcome the opportunity to apologise and be forgiven Now is a good time to learn not to hurt people's feelings. She will have the opportunity to learn to be sensitive to the feelings of others and also to be polite and to say sorry. Talk to your mother and make sure she accepts any apology with very good grace, otherwise your daughter might not want to apologise again. Can you get some help for your Mother with her housework? It must be awful to have a smelly house when its not your fault? Good Luck

A 6 year old can help with the cleaning too.