More of rant than asking for advice really!
So, there's a guy I work with who recently got engaged. Another colleague used to work with him at his previous company, where he apparently had a reputation as a player. He's been married before and I think that broke up as a result of him having an affair (not sure if that was with current girlfriend or not as she worked and still works for his old company).
He doesn't have the same player reputation at his current work BUT some people in the office know that he kissed someone on a foreign works outing in Aug 08. Only a couple of people know that a couple of months later after a few of us got drunk after work on a Friday night he came onto me big style and we ended up kissing (having split with my boyfriend the week before I quite enjoyed the attention). He was trying to persuade me to go back to the office with him, as soon as he mentioned that I realised how sleazy he was and backed off big style! I didn't know at this point he had a girlfriend; found out on the Monday and was livid with him! And felt guilty, even though I didn't know about her.....
I've since met his girlfriend and she's really nice. I feel bad that she presumably thinks he's a new man, and not a player anymore, and she's maybe going to make a big mistake by marrying him. Maybe he has changed in the last year, but I doubt it. AND I CAN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT!!! Poor wife to be
Ok, rant over!