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in need of some TLC tonight....... got stood up :-(

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thesouthsbelle · 20/02/2010 18:55

least i think I was, feels like I was - but then again not like I was even dating the bloke or seeing him - after all blew him out last week, so guess alls even now huh?!?

And to think I was going to let him have dinner with DS & I. bet everyone in the resturant was laughing after esp as I said we were waiting for someone else to join us.

no words from him since 10.15am this morning.

ho hum, on wards n upwards, is there actually any reliable good looking funny independent blokes out there who would take on another mans child and not actually have so many issues, oh and also be strong (cos well I can be a stubborn moobag) but not controlling.

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sincitylover · 20/02/2010 19:39

hi sb

could there be a genuine reason?

I am sure no-one thought anything - you could have been waiting for a female friend or relative.

Just thank your lucky stars you are not appearing on Take me Out (on ITVatm) - its so bad it's good

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thesouthsbelle · 20/02/2010 19:42

I dunno I was 10 mins late myself getting there but I text him in advance then rushed there & waited around (all be it inside but was sat by the door incase).

those walls ar staying well & truly up can tell ya that much- he's also deleted his FB as well, name's blacked out now on mine so not sure i his a/c is deleted or if it's just me he's deleted?!?

lol. take me out - never seen it! seriously thou why is it so hard to find a decent man these days, settle down & be happy?

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ninah · 20/02/2010 19:49

this is v weird south, sudden change in behaviour
do you think maybe he is with someone and has been lying, and has got found out?

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thesouthsbelle · 20/02/2010 19:53

no tbh ninah, I honestly do think he's genuine, he knows everything re gymboy and althou he says it's a hard situ for him he could work with it, as I say guess he figured my issues were too much - I was always weary as he's only separated & not yet divorced, given how our luck has been with separated men, i've been skeptical.

He also knew i would have to leave there by 2 to get and take nan shopping. is odd yes but as I say ho hum.

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ninah · 20/02/2010 19:57

too right - separated - won't go there again!
maybe somethign cropped up with his ex/dc and he just bottled telling you?
thing is you'll prob never know now which is frustrating
I am still wondering about my no show today, although I shouldn't really give it head space, adn I'm not upset or anythign, I jsut want to know! my friend will get it out of him

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thesouthsbelle · 20/02/2010 20:01

they don't deserve us ninah that's for sure.

tbh y'day I invited his DS as well - only a pizza nothing major but his DS apparently was with his friends this w.e (he's 9). He said last night if you're not sure on tomorrow or if it would be weird then don't worry, I said no fine, but added, i'm great at friends, and superficial stuff but shit at relationships.

then this am texted him sorted it all out and as I say no show.

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ninah · 20/02/2010 20:07

ah! maybe he was freaked at meeting your ds so early on?

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thesouthsbelle · 20/02/2010 20:09

not sure on that either tbh as he's been wanting to meetg DS for a while - I guess after GB to show me that no all men care about kids etc as it were? who knows. question now is delete number or not? and we'd started daily texts as well. oh well. lower phone bills. lol.

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ninah · 20/02/2010 20:12

in your case I'd give it a week or so
main thing is to delete from headspace

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thesouthsbelle · 20/02/2010 20:58

yeah guess so. night of wine n chocs me thinks!

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SpiceItUp · 20/02/2010 22:18

Get a sex toy!! Better option, they don't give you any grief and won't answer back! Lovers Spice on-line store has some crackers!

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thesouthsbelle · 20/02/2010 22:19

oh I have a couple. lol.

don't worry will be fine just wallowing a bit at the mo - as someone said to me in the week - it's something which the whole world seems to manage so easily, & all I want it to be settled down with someone who loves me.

ho hum. never mind. on wards n upwards.

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SpiceItUp · 20/02/2010 22:28

Mr Right will come along soon - don't you worry....

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thesouthsbelle · 24/02/2010 17:59

tbh this past week I really don't care if he does or doen't. sod em the lot of em.

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annatw9 · 24/02/2010 18:15

forget about him for now and if he contacts you again with a decent reason for today, consider it. meantime, enjoy yourself!

BigBadMummy · 24/02/2010 18:18

Hang in there southbelle I found an idiot fabulous man to take me on after my divorce and I had three DCs.

You have the right attitude in that you just want somebody to love you. That really is not too much to ask.

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thesouthsbelle · 24/02/2010 18:53

not heard a peep anna at all. nobber.

tbh am hanging up my dating boots till after the summer, said man had said he thought I was lost in a previous convo so guess he decided being friends was out as well - nice huh!

still....

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