Not sure what to do about this. Unwanted friendship with my brothers, gf's mum

[MrsMorgan]

I posted this in another topic, but it was suggested more people might see it here.

Basically my brother has a gf who I do not particularly like. There are reasons for this, but for the sake of my brother I get along with her.

He mum is very much like her only even more full on. I have only met her twice, very briefly and that was enough for me. I am sure she is a lovely woman, but way too high maintenence and over bearing for me.

So, she added me on fb and I accepted as I thought it would be rude not to. Then last week she txt me (she has my number because of one time when her dd's battery had ran out and i had to get hold of her). The txt said how lovely it would be to meet up in town and have a coffee and a chat or I could go to her house.

I sent back a kind of, 'oh very busy at the mo' kind of reply, and got a weird one back about how she could do with the company and my brother could warn me about their dogs and how disorganised she is. I didn't reply.

I rang my dad and he said he'd have a word with my brother about it. I then assumed that it was all sorted, but I have just had another txt saying 'would be lovely to meet you and have a coffee and a chat for a few hours'.

I haven't replied. I just don't need this at the moment. I feel like she wants to try and make my family hers, and I do not want that.
I am not having a great time of things at the moment and making friends with her is the very last thing I want to do.

I know I sound really uncaring and like a bitch but I just can't cope with this at the moment.

My dad has said he will have another word with my brother again, but I don't feel this is fair on him either because he is being put in an awkward position.

What shall I do ?

Just keep being busy and FGS stop your Dad having more words wtih your bro

it will all end in tears otherwise

she'll be hurt when her DD says "stop stalking X"

I would just ignore the texts.

un-friend on facebook and check your settings. Don't answer the texts. If you do meet in the street, be polite but have (a story ready about) somewhere to go that means you can't stop and chat.

Why do I need to stop my dad having words with his gf ???

When I told my dad about it before, he said that the gf had apparently had to have words with the mum about something similar before.

I will continue to ignore the txts. I am not likely to bump into her so that should be ok.

MrxMorgan, I would also recommend to stop getting your dad involved, for the simple reason that the girlfriend is not responsible for what her mum is doing. Apart from that, why does it have to be your dad who complains? This is a problem between two adults: you and that woman, not your dad and your DB's gf. I definitely would not like anyone to contact me because my mum is saying this or that to someone else, I'd ask whoever to fix their own problems.

Er ... this is your brother's girlfriend's mum? She's being crazy stalker lady a bit keen, isn't she? Wanting to get to know your parents, I could understand, but even if you adorned your brother's girl, I can't see how a conversation with this woman would be anything but awkward.

Very strange.

*adored. Oops.

I told my dad because my brother lives with my dad and has lots of dealings with the gf and her mums goings on.

I didn't ask my dad to have word with anyone. He said he would speak to my brother about it.

As I said, I will ignore the txts and hope she gives up.

Can't you block her no ?