I'm just out of a 15yr sham of a relationship, more than happily, and have met a man, we're both in our early 40's. I guess I'm a bit vunerable and hopeful for things to work. We live 2hr drive apart and have only spent 1 w/end together so far. He is very laid back, won't make plans, lastminute.com!! He lives in the moment, which has its appeal - but the reality....!! He is a flirt, definitely, but I know that, is honest though and has told me he doesn't know if this will become a full on relationship as far as he's concerned, I just really can't stand the thought of leaving myself open to get hurt, but am enjoying the contact I am having with him. Any advice on keeping him guessing a bit, not revealing too much..