So I'm watching The Big Bang Theory and there's a cultural assumption that the third date means sex.

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So does it? Is that the standard convention?

Just interested really.

Ah Riven, you have lived

Oh LeQueen - now you are Trying Too Hard...

Yes, but Riven , they were bonkers...

I've only ever had sex with someone I love or can see a future with. That's my cultural assumption.

How did a previously humourous thread become a battle cry for yet another one of SGB's tedious rants?

DH and I were also mates who sort of fell into bed together - I remember being uber shocked that he put his hand up my top the first time he kissed me .

I can't imagine anything more horrible than jumping into bed with a stranger tbh, very creepy.

After 3 dates with someone you don't really know, it seems a bit soon to me, you are still getting to know them at that stage. It's a different story when friends start dating imho.

The Big bang theory is my favourite thing on TV atm, should I admit to really relating to Sheldon?

Standard for the USA more so, where 'dating' was a formalised kind of thing although thats broken down now with the advent of internet dating where things are more casual because you have to work your way through a lot of frogs before you find yourself someone you truly do want to 'date'.

A proper 'date' being a more serious investment of time & money - dressing up, lunch and an outing or dinner, movie, etc. After three of those, its kind of expected that you start indicating that you ready to consummate the relationship iyswim... If not then it means it probably won't go any further and its an appropriate time to call it quits but obviously, its not always exactly three dates. And of course its doesn't mean love and forever after either.

This is for people that don't know each other v. well to begin with of course.

Can't say I've ever met any Shadowkin. Though would be intrigued to. If only out of admiration as to people who can keep that sort of thing up full time.

I slept with DH after a month (course he wasnt DH at the time) and we'd spent nearly every day together. We'd been friends for three months before we went out.
No three date rule for us!

And to concur with the masses, The Big Bang Theory rocks.

Forgot to add, I think most of these 'rules' are made up purely for sitcoms where they make their way into pop culture and so people follow them. Sitcoms rely on anything for humourous situations, hence making rules up for dating situations to produce comic results.

That being said I only ever slept with DH so dont know much about the whole 'when to have sex' game with regards to dating. We just did what worked for us...

After previously being a first date hussy, I restricted my (now) DH and I to snogging for a few dates, which meant we were totally rampant when we finally hit the sack. Don't recall the exact number, but think it was more than 3...

I was a late convert to the anticipation of restraint. Three, shmee....

Otherkin/Shadowkin or whatever they are called remind me of those people who think they have "indigo children" (snurk)

On the dating question, it does sound very American. You are "dating" and then you are "seeing" someone, right?... Or is it the other way round?... Damn, good job I didn't go to High School!

I think most people sleep together when it feels right for them both. That can be six months or six minutes.

Do elaborate on the 'indigo children'. Did they get dropped in ink?

OMG, I think I'm an indigo child!

That explains everything - I have 90%+ of the attributes of indigo people, does that mean I'm "spechul" ?

urgh, im so glad ive never had to date, i would be terrified at the assumptions and expectations.

I thought you were seeing someone until things got exclusive, then you're dating?
Sigh...

I thought you were 'sort of seeing someone' before you were 'seeing them'. Then you're just 'going out with them' aren't you?