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I think that I've turned the corner at last. I've been cured of baby-longing once and for all

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OrmRenewed · 14/02/2010 20:42

It's been coming on for ages since DS#2 was about 4. I did the sad thing when he left nursery. I cried a little when the last pram was sold at a car boot and when I took the last of the baby clothes and toys to Oxfam. But there was still a residual regret.

Friday evening I went to see a friend who had had a baby. He was tiny and very new and I went in to her house expecting to be overwhelmed with the usual wave of longing and adoration. But no. Nada! I looked at him and thought he looked mostly like a large pink slug I made all the right noises and cuddled him (mum made it sound like a favour), said the right things. But my main feeling was 'thank god that's not me'. Wondering if it's a menopause-related thing or just the next stage in my life.

I can honestly say now that I am glad all that messy, chaotic baby stuff is behind me. Wierd how it happens. I now know how some of my friends felt when I thrust my firstborn into their arms and they looked slightly underwhelmed

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Owls · 14/02/2010 20:58

Totally agree. The thought of starting again......urgh no thanks. No idea when I because aware of lack of broodiness. Except am broody for another puppy though. But baby? No way.

Claire2009 · 14/02/2010 22:16

I'm with ya, I was broody for another about a year or so ago, being single didn't help! But i'm very much past that now, don't want to go back to night wakings/feeds, nappies!

verytellytubby · 14/02/2010 22:19

I'm with you. After being broody since I was 16 (I'm now 36) 3 kids including twins I'm over it. I can't bear the idea of starting again. The thought of toddler group feels me with dread!

CarGirl · 14/02/2010 22:24

I'm seriously thinking about getting sterlised am that over it (thankfully, I feel 4 dc in a 3 bed house on a low income is quite enough!)

mollybob · 14/02/2010 22:46

I've totally been cured of broodiness by my latest pregnancy. Oops - which that could have happened before I fell.

NonnoMum · 14/02/2010 23:01

You are lucky to be at such a definite stage in your life. Good luck and bye bye nappies. Wish I could say the same. Got 3DCs but just can't dreaming about just one more...

OrmRenewed · 15/02/2010 08:16

Will you go for it nonno? Or is it definitely not going to happen? I felt just like that after no#1. Never thought no#2 would happen....let alone no#3 No#3 actually helped to cure me - he was 'unexpected'! And bless him, he is such hard work....

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violethill · 15/02/2010 08:36

I'm with verytellytubby. Even if I had the occasional pang for a newborn baby, the thought of toddler groups and coffee mornings would quickly bring me back to my senses!

OrmRenewed · 15/02/2010 11:01

It's quite strange. I am back to the way I was throughout my twenties - ie quite horrified at the idea of having babies about the place. Good thing mine have grown up a bit.

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NonnoMum · 16/02/2010 08:59

Orm - No 3 was a bit unexpected. Seems like once you are in 'outnumbered' territory that another one would fit in just fine...

Gulp.

Anniegetyourgun · 16/02/2010 09:12

I'm trying to fight the urge to acquire a kitten.

BalloonSlayer · 16/02/2010 09:51

My surprise extra (DS2) is now 2 and although I wax nostalgic for those times after the school run, just me and newborn him, breastfeeding, watching Homes Under the Hammer and mainlining cake, I go to Mum and Toddler group and want to hide in the wendy house, rocking ever so gently. Especially when we have to sing The Wheels on the Bus.

OrmRenewed · 17/02/2010 12:34

No annie, get a kitten! They are lovely and soft and cute but they don't need nappy changing, they don't keep waking you up at night and you are allowed to leave them outside to have a sh*t!

At first I did miss the pastel coloured cocoon of baby and toddler-hood balloon. Life is so safe and soft then.

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EarthMotherImNot · 17/02/2010 12:46

I've never reached that stage, hence moving from settling dc's into school/nursery then moving straight onto fostering babies

We are "between placements" at the moment and my broodyometer is soaring

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