Anyone else had a shit Valentines day?

[shatteredmumsrus]

Me and dp have separated on a trial basis, still seeing each other occasionally etc etc. He was meant to take our one to footy and then make me Sunday lunch. Didnt quite turn out that way though- I took the kids to footy and then for a carvery!He went out last night and obviously got hammered (the reason why we are separate) and didnt turn his phone on until 2pm!!! Then sent the usual txts saying sorry etc etc - I have not replied.......Make me feel better

Yeah i didnt have a good one, we went out ons aturday night and her behaviour was so awful that i had to ditch her on valentines. Its not what i wanted but it was the final nail in the coffin.

Repeated behaviour and i didnt want to be treated like crap anymore.

It will always be shit for me as it's the day I discovered my h had been cheating on me.

What a strange message from Lequeen.
Would it have been ok for him to have thrown away a Valentine's card meant for you had he relaised you had not got one for him?

I don't get your logic at all.

If it is all assumed and expected, where is the romance in that?

I dealt with Valentines Day this year very well. I have spent years getting upset by my H ignoring Valentines Day, and always thinking that, at least after the first year I knew him, it would be nice if he demonstrated a gesture towards me on this day. This year, (as I am permanently thinking about divorce with him) I was not affected by it whatsoever for the first time. This was brilliant!

(Valentines Day, however, with my H, is the least of my disappointments regarding special occasions. He has ignored and not acknowledged my birthday after the first couple of years (so ten more years of ignoring it have followed) and also with the wedding anniversary - that has always been ignored and I have always been told - 'so what, it's just another day'. And with birthdays when he refused to even acknowledge it was my birthday he would say ' aren't you too old to make a fuss of your birthday?' He did this for the last 9 years after my 40th birthday when he put on a surprise dinner at a restaurant (he is a narcissist and it showed people we knew what a thoughtful, kind, impressive H he was, I realised in later years).

Sorry - I seem to have gone off the point!

Oh - and by the way - my 40th birthday present was 'a Food Mixer' or a 'Hoover'. I guess that just about summed up his attitude towards me. Maybe I was being too sensitive about his choice of present?

I feel like quoting Catherine Tate for some strange overpowering reason - 'what a load of shit'!!!