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I found an email on my husbands outbox where it came out that he has been with another woman for months...

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america · 13/02/2010 20:12

It has been strained between us for awhile and sex life non existant since DS2 was born 12 months ago. My husband works in project work and has been away since May "on business" coming to us only a couple of times since. I accidentally tumbled on his outbox and found that he has been in relationship (explicit photos on email) for at least a couple of months and is even contemplating converting to islam (he has worked in the middle-east). On his emails he has even proposed future marriage to this woman and her parents. He has used all our money on something and has now asked me to divorce. What do I do know? Can anyone recommend a "divorce book" with practical advice? I have literally just found out and am totally numb. Would appreciate any help.

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xb2b · 16/02/2010 12:39

How are you today? Did you get to CAB? How did the interview go?

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america · 16/02/2010 15:19

Thanks. I got through to CAB but they were very unhelpful and basically there is nothing I can do moneywise and otherwise I can just kick him out and start separation procedure.

Yesterday he came up with all this very convincing crap about ssexually upressed saudi women and how nothing really happened except those emails. And that he sent all that money to help her as she was in some sort of trouble. And that he was on diving holiday alone...

And today I found that she is actually from jordania and proof that she was with him on this holiday. More complicated lies from H every time I confront him with something and tears and suicide threats when I suggested divorce. And I was stupid enough to contemplate on giving him another chance yesterday. That was before I found that underwear...

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Ladyscratt · 16/02/2010 15:26

Whooooaaaaa! That is a sure sign that it is over, lies, infidelity and generally being a prize arshole.

Life's too short sweetheart to put up with that sort of crap.

lou031205 · 16/02/2010 15:39

Don't buy it

Tortington · 16/02/2010 21:02

plase see a solicitor and get some legal advice

poshsinglemum · 16/02/2010 21:45

I'd pack his stuff and put it on the doorstep. What an idiot he is.

cananybodyhelp · 16/02/2010 22:06

here too, sorry.

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