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Depressed by the number of married/attached men looking for sex on net dating site

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Eurostar · 13/02/2010 13:57

I was feeling a bit bored and lonely this week with all the Valentine's talk so I joined up on one of those "casual" dating sites as I just can't imagine going through all the "courting" stuff after getting hurt a few times when normal net dating and not wanting to expose DCs to something I can't keep out of their lives. It was a spur of the moment thing and I doubt I'll actually write back to anyone, partly as I'm sure fantasy is better than reality and partly 'cos I don't fancy paying to find out (can only reply to messages if you pay).

I've had tons of messages (and pictures of cocks, what's all that about? Are there really men out there who think women get turned on by pictures of cocks? Or maybe there are...) and a great number of them are open about the fact that they are married and looking for sex on the side. This isn't a site for married people looking for a bit on the side, just one that says it's for casual relationships. I'm finding it really depressing that so many partnered up men are looking for sex outside their relationship and it's making me even more down about trying to go back into a proper relationship as I'm starting to think you can't trust any bloke

I'm not naive about men, I've had married men come onto me in real life at work, especially when I was attractive and young 20 years ago,not so much anymore - and always told them to get lost - but it's the sheer numbers my inbox is inundated with that is really getting to me.

I'm wondering how I can find a way to be celibate and not miss sex...

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GypsyMoth · 13/02/2010 14:04

the pics are so you know what you're missing!!

alot of these men are actually looking for more than just sex and yes,its bloody depressing that so many are in relationships!

Eurostar · 13/02/2010 14:19

If it was just that bit I was missing I'd get a rabbit

When you say that they want more than just sex Tiffany, do you mean that they want to talk too? Bit like a guy that goes to a hooker but then just talks?

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GypsyMoth · 13/02/2010 14:54

yes eurostar....believe so!

or a reular arrangement,or just an emotional connection...

Eurostar · 13/02/2010 16:33

Can see that the single ones might want an emotional connection but be feeling wary of it - like me - so going for the easy option....but if the married ones are looking for sex AND an emotional connection..what's the point of being married?

Oh well, logging off now, enough of the virtual world!

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ninah · 13/02/2010 17:23

because their wives don't understand them euro

TiggyD · 16/02/2010 14:09

I've tried a few sites. Lots of cock pics. Lots of men looking for "discrete meets". Lot's of fantasists who back out at the last minute. (Or in one case, hid behind his curtains when I was standing on his doorstep).

There are nice men out there. Best to meet in person.

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