i mean in this situation its all about power - hes going on like he wants to leave and your clinging on for dear life. its so unbecoming. when you get a backbone, workout finances - show him that you wont be a sad old bird and that you will do ok financially TYVM, then the shock of "oh don't leave me" to " fuck you i'll be fine" suddenly makes them stop - i find
i never tire of reminding my husband that i am actually very fuckable, hes a lucky bloke to have me. i wont die if he leaves, i;ll be ok fnancially - i'll manage, i'll get by - and no - i wont be nice if he just fucks off - i wont be anything to him. I have told dh plain as day that if he ever just left or indeed went off with another woman - i wouldn't even countenance his presence, i wouldn;t talk to him, text him, phone him or reply to his texts, emails, phnecalls. he would for all intense and purposes be dead to me. he would not exist. and thats how i would play it.
you need to regain you power. and remind him whats what.
i mean if he did leave - maybe in the short to medium term you would be devestated - but chances are eventually you will love again, get your life together again , fuck again - but they are all too wrapped up in themselves and the I, I, I of the situation
I am stifled, I can't do what i like, I cant go out when i like, family life is too boring, other women are too tempting, its all about them - so JOLT him into reality and remind him - you will get some good fucking - you are a good person and any ne would be happy to love you - you might have more babies ( you maynot don't tell him that) with your new beau - its not allabout him - as his life partner - remind him that you too will carry on with your life - they forget that shit selfish fuckers they are