My friend is angry with me and I'm in tears!!

[saggybits]

There is a group of us and I often get tasked to arrange the nights out. Anyway I asked one of my friends for her preferred dates well over a month ago and am still waiting for them. So today I chased her up and she became angry. She called me a nag and that I "just never let up!". I wasn't expecting her to react like that and am really upset about it. I'm in tears!! Am I being silly?

Maybe you just caught her at a bad moment and she let rip at you? Sometimes we are on the receiving end of cr*p from somewhere else...

She is being unreasonable and you are being a wee bit silly

Just arrange the dates to fit in with everyone else and if she can make it fine and if not, well you gave her plenty of time to give you dates so she's obviously not that bothered. Maybe she can't afford it or something.

hard to tell, maybe you were being naggy. maybe she is a beatch. organise your nights out and let someone else speak to her.

How rude! I'd be in tears too.
Arrange the date that suits everyone else and exclude her.
If she's any sort of friend at all then she'll be on the phone apologising soon - if not then she's not worth bothering with.
Concentrate on your night out with your real friends.

No, you're not being silly at all. It's horrible when a friend says something upsetting.

But as Blackduck says, I do wonder if perhaps there is something else going on in her life that's upsetting her, and you just came in for the fallout? Do you think that's possible?

Is she a good friend? Has this ever happened before? If you are close, perhaps you could say that her reaction seemed a bit extreme, and ask if she's ok?

Thanks girls, feeling a bit better that you're listening to me. May be I should take the hint that she doesn't be the 'drinking gang' anymore. Yes, I ought to arrange a night out and if she can make it, great and if she can't, that's fine too. The other girls' will help me finish the wine.

I wouldn´t have bothered to chase her up tbh.

If she was interested she would have replied imo.

But why do you do all the arranging?

How rude of her. Sorry you are upset. I agree- leave her out until she apologises.

Well you see if I got a response like that I would tend to think there was something more significant going on.

(And part of me would wonder just a little bit if I was being a bit officious about the way going about organising what is meant to be, presumably, a fun night out?)

Pick a date that works, and let everyone know. Excluding her from the invitation would be mean.

Maybe she felt embarrassed at not getting back to you?

I'd be upset if someone said that to me. Choose a date that everyone else can make and let her know. If she doesn't turn up with no good reason, I think you know where you stand (although this doesn't excuse her behaviour).

Be polite and realise that you have other friends.

Well, if she has a problem with you wanting her company then I wouldn't bother in future!

Bugger her.

The thing is our nights are really good fun, we all let our hair down and have a giggle. The reason I get to organise our nights out is because most of the other girls either work or have pre-schoolers (and I don't). I don't want it to get complicated and yes, she was rude. Granted, we are all busy but if wasn't as if I was hounding her. If she doesn't want to come out then say so nicely. So bugger her! Thanks girls xx