Bloody Facebook Again

[girlsnightout]

Ok so maybe I'm being a bit paranoid here, or maybe DH is playing pointless mind games. Things have been a little strained recently, nothing we have not come out from before but yesterday after browsing FB, it came to my attention that DH has accepted a Friends Request from his ex. The reason this is bothering me is that he has always maintained that in the 14 years we have been together, married for 11 with a 4 year of DS, he has hated her guts. She left after numerous affairs, married someone she worked with and took their son with her. She treated him like s**t but for the sake of their DS DH has maintained some form of contact with her, which I have never had a problem with. However, a few months ago DH got a phone call from her saying that she was getting divorced, apparently she was very tearful down the phone etc etc and asking for his advice, he seemed to take great delight in telling me this, at the time I thought he was pleased as he was feeling a sense of what goes round comes round' but now I'm not so sure. I have not mentioned that I know they have been in contact via FB and am not too sure if or how I should approach this, or just let sleeping dogs lie, I'm really feeling very unsettled.

i'd feel unsettled too,but would leave it a while. see if anything comes of it

is he the sort with loads and loads on his friends list,but only interacts with a few?

would there have been problems if he didn't accept her?

has he accepted just to keep the peace between mother of hi dd.

perhaps he has accepted but limited her access.

mother of his ds

Thanks ILoveTIFFANY for your reply. DH has never shown any interest in FB and has always mocked me for being on it! His profile page has been dormant for months and now suddenly his ex has appeared on it. I don't want to come across as paranoid but as I say things have been strained in our relationship and I trust her about as far as I can spit! I just don't understand why he just didn't ignore her request, he must have known that I would find out about it as it appears on my home page.

presumably he must be in contact with her anyway about their child?
maybe he just wants to see hlioday snpas of his child on there?

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Sorry ladies I should have mentioned that their DS is nearly 18! I see no reason for DH and his ex to have any contact with each other at all at this stage in their DS life.

i think its abit disrespectful of him not to tell you they are f/b friends there is nothing wrong with it so there was no need for him to keep it to himself, dont make too much of an issue about it , dont give her the satisfaction

Chubbasmum you could well be right. But would anybody in their right mind contemplate having anything to do with a person who turned their life upside down (regardless of how long ago it was}left them for someone else, a mountain of unpaid debt, not to mention taking their child away? That is not something that I would forgive or forget no matter how long ago it happend. If everything was still rosy in his ex's life she would never have given DH the time of day!

He's not hiding it from you though if it appears on your home page? Why not just say to him, I see that ex has befriended you, what's that about? In an interested rather than accusing tone...

Girlsnightout hun men are in a league of their own very hard to figure out my ex was sat upon by a group of thugs a few years ago he ended up going for sugery as a result and a few years down the line they are now best friends. My mum always used to say where they are treated like s...t thats were they make a beeline for men think if you give them a smile regardless of what happened in the past they are anyones friend