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what do i do?

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saggyjuju · 08/02/2010 14:59

have just been away for the weekend to stay with relatives of my husbands.my husbands grandma was there,she was feeling a little upset was in alot of pain because her back was unexpectadely hurting her,at the first chance she could,when all the family were out the room,she blurted out to me how worried she was about her back pain and she knows she should have her prolapse sorted and she knows she should loose weight {she is morbidly obese}she knows her knees are a problem because of her weight and that her back has probably gone because she walks with a wobble and rocks side to side very strangely,i have heard all of this before but then she pops into the equation that for the last 2 months shes been bleeding from inside her vagina on and off.now i'm not very close to her we get on fine she has 4 daughters 2 of whom she is close to and 2 she isnt,i dont get on with any,they are a very toxic family,thats a whole other story! i told her she must see her dr about the bleeding she said she will.the following morning her backache had gone she was elated, i got chance to corner her and insisted she see a dr about the bleeding sha was very dismissive and back to being distant with me and i know shes going to ignore the bleeding,what do i do?

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GypsyMoth · 08/02/2010 15:04

what can you do??

not alot....she told you in confidence. either break it and get the family involved,or just keep gently nagging her

saggyjuju · 08/02/2010 15:09

i think the gently nagging might work or the emotional blackmail,what would the family think if you dont get it sorted type of thing,arent some people through fear downright stupid,i myself am having treatments for unexpected bleeding,and yes absolutely shit myself but you have to face upto these things and sort them

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Karmann · 08/02/2010 15:49

My situation was different but it may help. I had an elderly neighbour and I could see she was getting more and more frail. I asked her to call her doctor and she said she would but never did. She had no family and I couldn't just watch her go down hill so I found out who her doctor was and called them myself. Because she had a history of illness her doctor just 'dropped in' when he was in the area.

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