Am I over reacting?

[blondemummy]

I posted a few weeks ago about how I was getting to the end of my tether with my husband. We hadn't been speaking properly since Christmas and basically hes very controlling and an emotional bully. Last week whenever we tried to talk we ended up rowing and he told me to get out of the house with the kids, that it is his house and I wouldn't get anything from him because I'm the one thats unhappy and is instigating things. He expects me to move out and take the children and leave him in the house, this all came to a head on Friday because I wouldn't have sex with him. He thinks if hes nice for a few hours then thats making an effort and I'll leap back into bed with him. Anyway I've checked his computer this morning and hes been watching live sex shows on the net. I feel sick to my stomach. Its just about tipped me over the edge. Do all men look at things like this or am I blowing things way out of proportion?

alot of men do view porn yes,but thats not the problem here is it?

I think the sex thing is a red herring - I think the fact your husband is threatening your home and security is the problem here. If it takes the sex thing for you to stop taking this kind of shit then so be it but to be honest his behaviour sounds really bad and you need to try and get some support and move away from that kind of bullying.

I've known him view porn before, you know just the usual kind of films but this just seems worse to me. Its a real person sitting there with a webcam. I think I've just about had enough and this is the last straw.

ybh not quite sure why this is the last straw, he wants to throw you and your children out of the house and this is what makes you want to leave him?

so how much is this porn costing to view? it will be by credit card....statements?

the fact he's trying to hold so much power over you is more of a worry...see a solicitior for free half hour,if only to put him straight on legalities of house

hadn't even crossed my mind that you would have to pay for it.

I wanted to leave him prior to this. Its not easy when you don't have an income and you don't know how you are going to be able to cope with three small children, and I know hes going to be asolultely vile about it all. Anyway, I'm going to see a solicitor on thurs now. The first half an hour isn't free but it looks like I'm eligible for legal aid.

I would get out of there, he clearly has no respect for you or the kids what a f......ing twat!

good luck, bm

sometimes something is the last straw to break a camel's back and this is yours

he sounds like a very unpleasant individual

please don't ever sleep with him again