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How do I deal with a friend who ALWAYS has something wrong with her...

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Numberfour · 06/02/2010 16:44

...or a member of her family?

A polite Hello! How are you? is always met with a litany of viruses or ailments.

A cold is a sinus infection and a cough a chest infection. Her DD's nightmares are night terrors. Her DD's extreme fussiness with food is not "real" fussiness but a learned behaviour from the older DD.

She is always tired and always has so much work to do yet is a SAHM (yes yes yes! I know SAHM mums are very busy, I accept that!) She has managed to convince herself she has some vague chronic illness (don't want to mention it in case she is recognisable) and she has managed to convince her DH that he is ASD.

I am not describing the situation well enough..... another example. My DS was playing up today being whingey and clingy (he is 4). She now reckons it is anxiety. Not just a kid that is playing up!

She also suggested that my DS is ASD. (I have checked with the teacher and DS is fine) Her DD is not just bright, but gifted, according to her own assessment.

EVERY bloody thing is a huge issue. Never have I met her to have a lovely happy chatty chat!

It is impossible for me to avoid her completely as our children are friends.

So, my question is does anyone have any ideas of how I could handle this matter? It drives me bonkers having to listen all the time about how ill she is. Over and over and over again.

I am getting riled up just thinking about it.

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victoriascrumptious · 06/02/2010 16:49

No point getting riled about it and it's not something id take personally. She sounds like a very anxious woman and clearly has nothing better to talk about

Numberfour · 06/02/2010 16:52

probably is the case,victoriascrumptious. she is the type who talks about her kids or her or her family's illnesses ALL the time.

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SpringHeeledJack · 06/02/2010 16:56

tell you what, though, I've got a friend like this. For years me and dp took the piss behind her back (we called her Doctors-haven't-got-a-NAME-for-what-I've-got) but turns out years later she actually has a very slowly growing tumour in an awkward place that affects a lot of other things to do with her health

[intense shaaaaame emoticon]

Numberfour · 06/02/2010 16:59

on the hypochondriac's gravestone: Told you so!

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