It has finally come to and end. Hand holding please

[Eve34]

Well for those that may of seen some of my past post, he has finally picked her over me and his son. He loves her and not me.

Could pull it to pieces but that would achieve nothing. My sister is coming over tonight, and a friend tomorrow and sunday. I am not sure I want them here, I just want him back.

I can't have that so will wallow for a few days and pull myslef together :-)

What happened? didn't see your post?

LadyS thank you for reply. He was seeing someone else, it has come to a head several times and he promised me it was me he wanted. He has finally said that he wants to be with her.

After 12 months I appreciate his honesty but am crushed.

Really sorry Eve, but in a way relieved for you too. I know it's not what you wanted and I read your other thread with interest and much concern, as I did your original contributions from last summer. You did your best and for you, I suspect you can draw great strength from the fact that you tried. I know your biggest fear was not seeing your son every day - but I hope in time you will be able to see that free time as an opportunity for you to grow a new skin and in time, meet someone who will truly love and adore you.

Your H has been cruel, for a very long time. The OW has been cruel, in never stepping aside and giving your marriage a chance.

Take some comfort in the statistics that relationships that start this way, have a very poor chance of success. Meanwhile the relationships you form in the future, based on honesty and transparency, will flourish.

I know this is going to be a horrible weekend for you and really, I hope that now he has made this decision, he will stick to it and leave you at peace. I cannot imagine how these long months of vacillation have done to you. Is there any chance you could afford a week in the sun with some trusted allies? It might be good for you.

You always come across in your posts as a really lovely, kind woman, who hasn't deserved the life you've been given. This is a fault in him (and OW) and not you, or even your relationship.

I heart WWIFN! She is spot on.

I'm so sorry it's come to this, just do whatever gets you through these next few days and weeks. It will get easier, but there's no way to get through this properly without it feeling awful for a while. Your sister and friends will just want to be there to support you, don't think you need to be any kind of company, they won't expect that.

WWIFN thank you so much, I an so hurt and angry i want him to feel that hurt to, but he has what he wants. Will just have to be staisfied with putting his stuff away for him to collect.

I kow that in time I will look back and wonder why I hung in there so long.

He was emotionally abusive and I knew it was wrong, I can now let my son grow up without having to keep saying please be a good boy for daddy, you know he geets grumpy. And he can grow up without the stupid threats he says.

I know this is for the best. x

eve, this really is the start of a new life for you and dc, although I am sure it doesn't feel like that just now

but it will

if you have been letting him come and go for a whole year, and making excuses for his bad behaviour, then how could you possibly do any more?

take comfort from the fact that he threw away his chance of a happy family with you and one day he will regret it very much

but that is not your problem, nor should you wait for that day

because by then you will have grieved the loss of your hopes, moved on and just be grateful he fnally set you free

it could never have worked, could it ?

AF thank you that is what I keep trying to think, but then look at my son and wonder how it went so wrong.

Must ponder on the past.

Forwards :-)

your son will be better if his mummy is not in a bad relationship

fact

Sorry that was a must not ponder on the past. Just mas big mistake of texting him abuse. Will stop now. It will make me look sad and pathetic.