Play it cool or dash right in?

[TheDevilWearsPrimark]

I am truly smitten with the most amazing guy and it's going really well. Properly head over heels smitten.

My heart is saying go with the flow but in my head I'm having niggling doubts. I'm not sure I could cope with the emotional fallout if it all goes tits up.

I finally divorced exH last year and did a bit of an on/off thing for a while with him, which thankfully totally stopped.

I'm also worried about, if things work out, how it will work with my DC.

Can anyone offer experience about first relationships after a break up? Thanks.

dwp - just go for it - be happy .

Thanks reality - your DP is a diamond!

It just all seems too good to be true, I feel I'm setting myself up for a fall. But actually yes, I'm financially independent, much more emotionally strong, and a fab mother (most of the time) Plus I deserve (nay, need) a bit of excitement.

What will be will be I suppose

(go on shineys thread for more gossip hehe)

thanks too nickschick. sorry I'd x posted.

swoon again.

More opinions please. I need someone to tell me to calm down....if only my Gran was alive...bless her.

(though if she met him she'd probably want a piece of the action for herself teehee)

What are the niggles?

He's just too good to be true, really smart, fab sense of humour, incredibly handsome, a musician, considerate..oh the list could go on and on.

We have had four dates and I've been to see him play twice. We have only kissed and cosied so far and it's so nice.

I haven't felt like this for a long time and it's making me nervous.

Plus there's the whole when to introduce the children thing. Ds is ASD and I'm not sure how he would take it.

And no doubt exH will try to throw a spanner in the works at some point.

But for now - I am walking around with an insane grin on my face and butterflies in my tummy.

Four dates isn't long enough to know whether your 'niggling doubts' come from some signals you've picked up, or your fears of getting burned again.

Keep a diary, or post to your thread here. Write down anything that gives you a twinge, even if you don't think it matters.

Enjoy yourself, that's what you're supposed to do! But don't start planning the wedding yet

Agree with Grace (as always). I keep a diary and can now look back on my last failed relationship and know that all the signs were there but I ignored them!

Having said that, as long as you've got your head screwed on and you're enjoying yourself, just enjoy those lovely butterflies and take each date as it comes. And maybe he thinks you're too good to be true as well (I looked at your pics, you're so pretty). I'd keep the kids out of it for as long as you can - you have plenty of time for him to meet them if it goes well.