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Please tell me there is sex after children!

9 replies

EaseMyMind · 04/02/2010 23:46

DP and i are expecting our first in a couple of weeks, and have been effectively celibate during the pregnancy- neither of us have really felt like it, too uncomfortable for me, too weird for him. We've both been fine with that, but now I'm worried that we've both been fine with that- 10 years together and we've always had a pretty good/great sex life. Please tell me our libidos will return! (I know it could take some time)

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SpeedyGonzalez · 04/02/2010 23:50

Yes, you will eventually have sex. If you're too sore in the first few months (and I mean months - it might take you that long to feel like it again) then you can still have a play without penetration.

And his libido will return far more quickly than yours, especially if you're bfing. And if you are bfing, just be aware that when you orgasm your breast milk will adorn your DP with a shower of appreciation!

Limara · 04/02/2010 23:52

Mine did! No prob.

bumpybecky · 04/02/2010 23:55

of course you will have sex again - where do you think second, third, fourth, fifth etc children come from

minxofmancunia · 04/02/2010 23:58

yes, but it may take a while, although it's best not to force it if you really don't feel like it, I've left it so long now and feel so anxious about it it's become a bit of a hurdle for me so my advice would be even if it you're not tatally up for it, it's a good idea to keep practising ocassionally so it doesn't become an issue.

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 05/02/2010 00:05

Ahem, I was well up for it 3 days after the birth. Obviously we aren't insane so waited three weeks til I wasn't bleeding, healed etc. Don't assume you'll have no libido afterward - we found it's getting the opportunity to do it that's the difficult bit afterward, with a small baby!

Chandon · 05/02/2010 17:28

yes it will

girlsyearapart · 05/02/2010 17:34

Pregnant with dd2 when dd1 was 3 months. Pregnant again when dd2 was 13 months. Soo the answer is yes

Tortington · 05/02/2010 17:36

being pregnant made me so horny dh thought it was his birthday every day!

yes it returns - bit scary first time after popping a human out your flange - but after that its fine

BooKangerooWonders · 05/02/2010 17:52

James - are you me?! Try when you've got small baby AND pre-schoolers to escape from...

But Ease, make sure you and dh keep talking abuot it!

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