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cure for a crush please help

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suchacrush · 04/02/2010 22:48

have developed an insane crush on someone and now can barely think straight for worrying everyone can tell what I'm thinking to wanting to be near him all the time.
It is the last thing I want to happen and hope you have tips for getting over it sharpish!

I have tried thinking he is probably really boring,may well wear white socks or sandals and isn't all that tall ~ not worked so far!

I still can't stop looking at him it's bizarre!!!

Today I felt upset because he didn't sit near to me and it quite ruined my day.lol.

Please help

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stripeywoollenhat · 04/02/2010 22:52

time. nearly always works

(also, what's the problem? are you hitched? is he? if not, who dares wins etc...)

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suchacrush · 04/02/2010 22:54

the main problem is I am functioning in this intense flushed state of hysteria while tryng to hide it and not make a fool of myself

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suchacrush · 04/02/2010 23:06

what i want to know is do i try to play it down a bit and be cool because if I don't it is going to be a bit obvious ~ or is it just obvious to me???

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suchacrush · 04/02/2010 23:13

oh yes total disaster both hitched just need to find a way to act normal so i don't look a total idiot

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ReneRusso · 04/02/2010 23:18

Probably no one else notices.

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suchacrush · 04/02/2010 23:22

thankyou rene though i notice others acting that way ~ once you see it it stands out a mile.

In this situation I get so consumed I can't tell if I am being obvious or in fact offhand and end up oscillating between the two.

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suchacrush · 04/02/2010 23:48

not happy outcome due to not being single do you mean?

I can't move atm ~ I need to act normal,sadly this isn't happening as well as I would like

any tips~ stop talking to him apart from bare essentials or avoid him??

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suchacrush · 05/02/2010 00:00

no but you know,people can tell ~ I know I usually can but I'm in such a state I can hardly tell how i'm appearing to the outside world atm
haha it's a bad joke lol

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said · 05/02/2010 00:03

Is it a bit reciprocated? Crushes are lovely. Would it be really harmful to just enjoy it knowing nothing will happen?

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suchacrush · 05/02/2010 00:04

yes a lot some days ...not exactly flirting but a lot of time and talking ,maybe a bit less lately hence me being a little lovesick..not sure if people might begin/have begun to notice

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suchacrush · 05/02/2010 00:09

not sure if reciprocated or we just hit it off..perhaps cooled down today..i was devastated lol

it's so stupid

but then i think he is just being kind and i am reading it all wrong ~ lol lol and more lol

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suchacrush · 05/02/2010 00:11

said and jajas maybe it would help me to see what happens and you can comment~watch for next few days please

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said · 05/02/2010 00:12

You can always read too much into nothing when in a heightened state of crush. I'd just enjoy it being a bright spot in your day

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suchacrush · 05/02/2010 00:19

exactly but where it was fun now it's not as i am missing him when he isn't there etc which makes me think it's more a one sided crush and i am reading a lot into it a bit by accident

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suchacrush · 05/02/2010 00:22

you know it's a bit of a shame you can't be as friendly with a man as a woman ~ I'm quite keen on making friends which is what this is mainly,but where if it was a woman i would take the friendship on a bit further i feel i can't do this as he is a man[or can i?] so i feel a bit sad

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suchacrush · 05/02/2010 00:23

thankyou

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suchacrush · 13/02/2010 12:26

well just an update...the days i have cooled down a bit i get along great with him but the days i have been thinking about him/getting closer to him i become paralysed with shyness

wondering if he can tell...he is pretty sharp

just for example spent a long time chatting last thing thurs then friday he turned up looking ultra pristine and wearing some sort of nice perfume

however i felt so utterley overwhelmed by this could hardly look at him esp as i wasn't looking my best lol and couldn't meet his gaze

am now thinking he can either tell by now or i may be giving off mixed signals in my confusion

any tips to keep this under control...and do you think he will have guessed

i have tried to think he is smarmy and that works a bit

the others who are around i can touch freely or give a bit of a playful arm squeeze to and they are the same with me but with him there is no touching except by accident and i think this is causing all the tension somehow

to summarise...mainly aarrgghh

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suchacrush · 13/02/2010 12:42

please help

you know white socks black shoes,can't think of anymore but can anyone else?

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Remotew · 13/02/2010 12:52

I started a thread last night in chat for something similar. A guy at work. It cannot go anywhere. So I can understand how you are feeling.

I don't have to sit in the same room but meet in other parts of the building and chat more than with anyone else. I think he can tell so I am trying to think he knows and is just being nice! You could try that.