Phoning a man you have never met

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I've been sent a message by a nice looking man on a fairly highbrow dating site.

He's a teacher, a playwright and in his words 'happily divorced'. He's 12 years older than me.

We have not spoken much by email and he has suggested a phone call (I'm not one for instant messaging, suspect he prefers it and/or phoning to long letters)

I agreed and he gave me his number.
I'm nervous, and don't know how to prepare. I suppose it will be clear very quickly if we are going to get on, but I need a few stock phrases I suppose to get off the phone fast, or make excuses, or just procrastinate...no idea what he might suggest.

Should I agree to meet for a drink or something, if he suggests it?

No idea of the correct protocol!

Any tips very gratefully received, thanks.

Why isn't he phoning you? Would think if he was that keen he would have asked you for your number. I personally would do nothing at this point. He is sitting back and waiting for you to do the running. Not my thing really, but no doubt 3000 posts will now follow from posters who chased their DPs/DHs and are now deliriously happy

Perhaps it would be safer initially for OP to ring a stranger and hide her number rather than giving her number straight out to anyone.

No am not chasing, he emailed about a month ago, I was too poor to subscribe, so sent the one line thingy back...he said 'do you have msn' I don't think he 'got' that I could only send these one line answers.
Anyway it's free emailing this week so I emailed and apologised and told him a bit about myself in return.

He asked if I would like to talk on the phone, I said OK, and asked for his number as I didn't want to give mine out to a potential nutter

Hope that makes sense.

Ah Fruity you have it

Personally FA I would correspond with him for a little longer - I really am a great believer in slow burn with these things, written correspondance over a couple of weeks will give you an insight into his values and all that and will also give you something to talk about when you do speak. It really did work for me, in fact my DH and I didn't speak until the day we met, we corresponded over a couple of weeks and it was in fact very romantic and a bit old fashioned. It is a lot of pressure to call someone and perhaps you can set up a gmail or something just for romantic purposes.