What do you do when you are married, but living day to day as a single mum?
I am fine until he comes home from work- then i want him to be 'part of the family' but there is nothing from him.
He has a gambling problem. He is trying 'FORCED cold turkey' (HE does not see HE has a problem) So...I am constantly vigilant...and know he will not suceed- as HE does not want to.
Both his parents died within the last 2 years- his family is like the mafia- so he is lost without them.He was reffered for bereavment counselling but 'forgot' to go.
Me- I have been on anti depressants for 14 years.I have had psychiatry & psychology - and am diagnosed with OCD.
Our boys are 10,13 &16 and all have a form of autism (aspergers) and are on medication for ADHD.
FACT - having special needs kids HAS strained our marriage....but it is NOT their FAULT.
DH and I have just run out of energy now. Like any family with teenagers...its way harder than when they are 'little'... but the behavioural/emotional problems they have to do with the autism just makes it harder.
I think at the moment....I'd just like advice from people on how i can BEHAVE better towards the boys...I am snappy, irritable and inconsistant. (Autistic peoople need consistancy/routine- so i am aware that its a 'spiral' as the more i get fed up- the less of a 'rock' i am to them...and that is reflected intheir behaviour...etc...etc...
I want to concentrate on the 'being a mum'...and ignore DH's detatchment. The guilt i feel about my treatment of the children is what is upseting me...DH and I may survive- may improve if the general 'atmosphere' improves..