Am I being unreasonable in...

[goatinacoat]

requesting that H (separated) inform me if he's going abroad, and provide some kind of emergency contact details in case of an issue with the dcs?

A recent health scare made it occur to me that most of the time I have absolutely no idea where he is, or how I'd contact him urgently. We have 2 dc's under 5, and although he'll usually have his mobile, they aren't always foolproof (signal, battery etc etc)

Is it reasonable to ask this, or is it absolutely none of my business where he is when he isn't with the dcs? Thanks in advance..

I would say it's essential for you both to have each other's emergency contact details, assuming that he's actively involved with the children, or at the very least have details of someone who can contact him right away.

None of your business where he is when he hasn't got the dc's Im afraid. You have his mobile number I presume?

I do, but he's selective about its use. I've been in situations before when I've tried to contact him and it's been turned off or he's failed to return calls for up to a day.

To clarify, I rarely ever contact him, and if I do, it's with very good reason. I'm quite aware he's off with OW, that's not the issue, it's the total responsibility for the dc's in an emergency which is my concern, if that makes sense.

Thanks for your help!