Birth flashback during sex

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Am only the only person to have this?

I had a c section with DS1 and DS2 was a fairly traumatic ventouse delivery (although with complete spinal block).

DS2 is nearly a year old and sex hasn't exactly been a priority since he was born. I've been shattered and have found it quite uncomfortable. I'm still breastfeeding but found I've felt more frisky since since I've dropped the afternoon feed.

Anyway, I digress, my main issue is that have flashbacks to DS2's birth every time I have sex. I think it must be the position as I didn't feel a thing during the birth - but maybe not.

It's a proper flashback - I close my eyes and I can see the room ,the midwife, everything.

It's not the kind of imagery that adds to the mood.

Anybody else? And do they fade. Surely a year is long enough?

OK as an unqualified lay person that sounds like the diagnostic definition of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (which is, I believe, seriously intrusive unwanted memories of an event for a period longer than a month).

I would say go to your GP and ask about therapy.

Post Traumatic Stress? blimey.

Do you really think?

Any idea what a therapist will do?

i had post traumatic disorder after the birth of my baby. Wasn't sex related, mine was every time I closed my eyes I had a total, horrible flashback.

I had cognitive therapy with a therapist who basically got me to talk about what happened and analysed my feelings and the more I talked, the less of a sensitive subject it was and eventually the flashbacks stopped.
It sounds so simple but you really need a therapist to help you cos it's all very subtle.

You should definately go for it, am sure the doctor sees loads of women who go through this.

Oh you poor thing. I had a traumatic ventouse delivery with my DS, followed by a manual extraction of the placenta.For the first few months I did have to push the image of a female doctor inside me up to her elbow, while a young male doctor stood swaying in horror in the background, out of my mind whenever sex was initiated.

I felt nothing either but that doesn't mean you are spared the grim reality!

I had forgotten all about it until now..

oh Mrs Boogie I'm sorry

Didn't mean to drag it all up again!

oh its ok! I am well over it!