Still not getting anywhere

[devastatedbuthopeful]

A few weeks ago I posted regarding the break up of my marriage due to DH moving in with his trollop after finding they had been having an affair for 3 years.
He is still with her and I have accepted it's all over for us. I am currently seeing a coun sellor in the hope of controlling my reactions to him when we meet, varying between weeping and screaming. I have so much anger towards them both.
I do exercise at the gym and walk the dogs, also go out to work albeit part-time. So I am trying.
However, he isn't. He avoids meeting me, I suppose because I am so volatile. But we need to discuss things such as house sale, money etc. Trying to tie him down to a meeting is impossible, any advice.

You need to get yourself to a solicitor pronto and get him/her to start communicating with him. Start getting things on a formal footing. Do you have dcs?

Things need to be sorted. Presumably you know where he is living and/or working? Solicitor can write to him and get the ball rolling.

Don't berate yourself for swinging between being angry and crying....sounds normal reaction to a shitbag to me.

Could you do your "talking" on MSN or similar? Or keep it between solicitors.

If you're so (understandably) full of anger and hatred towards him then face to face conversation may be nigh on impossible for now?

I know that even after 7 years, my sister couldn't face seeing her ex husband of 25 years, who did a similar thing to yours. She's still beyond bitter towards him and what he did.

Yes solicitor in place and he has had a letter but not responded. I don't know what his problem is, he's the one who started all this, I presume he wants a divorce etc as he has said he wants to be with her not me. Also I need to move on and sell the house as I don't come from this area and only have work colleagues as friends or should I say acquaintances.
I e-mail him at work with requests or to talk about DD's, both away at Uni.
Gosh, that seems bad, not being able to face ex after 7 years, I hope I can, I would like to think we could get some sort of friendship going, as we have been together for 26 years.