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Panic

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twinklesky · 01/02/2010 14:15

I need some urgent advice.

My partner and I have been together for 4 years. We are engaged and have a 2 year old child. Two years ago he was being very violent towards and I called the police, eventually. He has taken an IDAP course and claims to be "cured"

However, recently he lost his job and seems to have made it his mission to make my life a misery. I've gone back to work full time to help us out, but everything I do is wrong. He says looking after the baby is easy, cleaning the house is easy, doing the wahsing is easy, I was just a lazy cow. This is all despite the fact that the house is NEVER spotless as it was when he came home from work, the baby is never fed properply and the gas keeps running out on the meter. Yet he denies I managed to do any of this stuff. The house was spotless all but one or two days of the two years he worked full time when I was at home. WHY is he dening this now? How can I argue thhis point? He just screams at me that I am delusional liar, to the point where I am starting to doubt it myself.

I have been given the chance to go and work in France for 6 months. I would have to leave my child but its the escape I have been looking for. I just don't know what to do, I don't even want to go home any more. The constant critisim makes me cry and he laughs at me and calls me pathetic. I think I prefered it when he was hitting me because at least them he would see the error of his ways a few hours later, this is just a constant ensaulght of my self confidence.

I don't know what to do

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GypsyMoth · 01/02/2010 14:17

well dont leave your child for a start!

Tortoise · 01/02/2010 14:19

I wouldn't leave my child with someone like him.

Undercovamutha · 01/02/2010 14:21

Do not leave your child for 6months - especially with someone who sounds like such an arse.

If I were you I would be getting UNengaged very fast, and having a good think about whether you want to stay with this man.

Orangesarenottheonlyfruit · 01/02/2010 14:26

Don't leave your child, leave the feckless horror who is making your life a misery!

Could you take your child with you?

twinklesky · 01/02/2010 14:28

If I want to take the job I will need to go out there and see whether it's suitable for bringing my child out. I wouldn't be leaving him for the 6 months btu I would have to leave him ffor a period of time.

The last thing I want to do is walk out on my family.

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