I tried ''chatting up'' some men tonight ha ha ha ha !

[poshsinglemum]

One laughed in may face because I told him he looked like Tieri Henri (could be worse!) Another got REALLy aggressive becaue I asked him to buy me a cider (I know it was out of order bu I was being a bit tongie in cheek/ a bit of a chancer). I was just having a laugh basically. Jees there's some angry guys out there, I was taking the piss and not being some soft girly so my response was a bit horrifiing to say the least. If someone tole me I looked like Thierre Henri I'd be made up . Ok - I'm out of practice.

posh, unless you just want a drunken fumble you aren't going to attract any decent blokes behaving like that. Sorry, but I think you deserve better and you're selling yourself short.

Depends on the bar you go to really!

Fwiw, asking someone to buy you a drink as a tounge in cheek bantering tool is not so bad - chat, banter "what's your name then?" "buy me a drink and I'll tell you ", cheeky but not overstepping the mark.
Guy sounds like the type you're better off avoiding if he gets aggressive over that.

What type of bar was it? Suits and shoes and hair wax? Coke in the loos?

I was out because it was my mates birthday and I wanted to do it on my terms and not just look pretty for the men. I wanted to get drunk so I did. I am not ready for a boyfriend so I feel that I have nothing to loose with these men. I just see it as a bit of a flirt.

The man who I REALLY have affections for- well I can barely talk to him as I go red so I have no choice but to be coy. I didn't meet him down pub either. He's never there but with his girl friend.

When I am ready to date properly (or indeed to preserve my reputation) I dare say I will approach men in a more lady like fashion!

Or....you might not have realised how you were coming across if you're not used to drinking much.

Did you go out with friends or alone?

cross post sorry

I was being a total eejit granted.

aww, posh

they do sound very rude, actually, even if you were pissed and being a nuisance

Yes, but so would women be to a man. Can't have double standards, sadly.

Asking for a drink is hardly a reason for a bloke to get aggressive is it? Come to think of it, is there ever a good reason for a bloke to get aggressive with a woman?

That bloke sounds like a prick Poshsinglemum.

Sorry you had a bit of a crap night, maybe next time, go somewhere more friendly and just get tipsy not drunk.

I don't know. If a drunk bloke came up to me and slurred "buy me a drink" I think I'd probably tell him to fuck off. why should it not be the same the other way round?

describe his level of agression?
I know what my reaction would be if someone came up to me pissed and asked me to buy them a drink.

sorry but the idea of random men being protective left me a long time ago.

Different place but a long time ago I dared to question an older man I worked with - he had the facade of coming across as protective but I have never seen such hatred and venom in his eyes.

And I am quite a pollyanna.

Since have seen a similar look in other men's eyes.

Cynical moi?

If you say a bloke looks like a footballer when that guy might hate the team/country that footballer plays for, you're always onto a loser.

Sorry but a drunk woman crashing in on people's conversation in a bar is also going to be pretty unwelcome to most.

I admit- there is nothing more annoying than a bad drunk (which I am unfortunately) but when one comes my way I normally dodge them or run! I don't talk to them at all as I don't want to encourage them.
I just felt the venom and it hurt a bit. I guess not everyone is as loving as me!

Posh, just look back on it as a lesson learnt.I perhaps wouldnt ask a man to buy me a drink, i would let them come to you. The guy's the other night obviously are not worthy of your attention.

posh - "nothing more annoying than a bad drunk(which i am)"

why do you drink then?

there is a happy medium between rolling round drunk demanding drink from strange men and fluttering your eyelashes and acting coy, it is called acting normal.

"but when one comes my way I normally dodge them or run! I don't talk to them at all as I don't want to encourage them."

So you'd have been pissed off by your actions had you been in their shoes also?
And could you actually describe the agression? did they physically try to intimidate you or did they pointedly tell you to F-off?

I agree Eleanora, many a time i have been drunk and done stupid things i regret. I think the OP has learnt her lesson.

Heqet, if a drunk bloke asked me for a drink, I might pull this face [hmmm] and think he was a wally but I wouldn't get aggressive, that would be a completely disproportionate reaction IMO. Neither would I tell a bloke to 'fuck off', because, once, when I was about 17, I told a bloke to fuck off for grabbing my arse and he got in my face and aggressively said 'No, you fuck off'. I wouldn't risk aggravating a drunk bloke to be honest.

this face even!

If I was single I don't think I would have the guts to approach any man, I am too shy for that and I guess a little old fashioned too. Prefer the man to do the chasing.

I was always told you never find love when you are looking, thankfully I still have DH.

Would hate to be on my own now at my age.