FTB?

[MorrisZapp]

Does anybody know why forthebest's two threads have gone?

No, I was just looking for those too....

No, but I really hope she is OK.

I was looking, too.

I was a bit snippy in a post to her last night, and I was going to say something kinder today.

Hope she's lurking even if she doesn't want to post any more.

Hope shes ok.
Why would they have gone?

Oh i read them last night and rather ashamedly didnt have time to post, I was going to offer words of encouragement/support tonight.

I hope she is ok.

Someone one here (I forget the posters name) mentioned it being possible to identify a MNetter in RL and that MNetter having been reported to SS. Maybe this scared FTB off.

Whatever the reason I just hope FTB and her DC's are Ok.

Stay safe FTB.

on not one!

Should've previewed!

She did say that her partner had suddenly taken to looking at Facebook rather a lot. Perhaps he was looking at the PC history and saw Mumsnet? Maybe she saw him browsing or something and so removed the threads?

FTB, if you are looking at this, I really do hope you are ok.

I think she posts at work.

It all looked to be taking a pretty worrying turn from what she said last night. I think she had quite a few responses like mine (ie stop talking, get rid, your kids are at risk) which may have seemed a bit too much to cope with in the circs.

On the hopeful side, she did say she was spending time with her sister, so with luck the sister can be there as support.

It was me that mentioned the SS thing. I know it happened to HedgeWitch so it is a possibility.

If that has put her off using MN for support then I'm very sorry if it's caused trouble

FTB if you can see this hope you are getting help and support from somewhere.

Aye, it's a tough one. FTB would probably benefit from some kind of intervention, as she couldn't see the wood for the trees despite our efforts to convince her what was happening.

Hope she hasn't been frightened off permanently.

I was wondering as well. And sort of hoping it might have been Not True or something (because it being a fantasy/attention seeker is probably preferable to someone actually having to live through that crap).

I did wonder that too SGB.

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It wasn't made up and I wasn't posting on multiple threads. I only post at work and havent been at work since last week as a lot has happened.

My OH left last saturday night. I asked him to go as I had had enough. He is at his parents.
We are being civil. He still hasn't smoked and is getting help with that. The tablets the GP gave him to " help " with sleeping made his behaviour ridiculous and he realised that himself I think !He has since stopped these and been to the GP since apparently.
I havent spoken to him since sunday and we have agreed thats how it shall be for the time being.
I have told the DC that he is staying with his parents for a while as they know he has been poorly.
They are ok with this as they have been used to him working away every once in a while. They are fine and happy and the three of us stayed up on monday night watching High School Musical in bed eating toast lol.

According to his mother the results of the blood teast came back abnormal and they are now referring him to the hospital to see if the knee and back pain he has been stating as the reason for his not getting a job and excessive smoking/miserableness is MS. He has suspected this for a while and it is a shame that it has taken THIS to get him to bloody well sort himself out. I am pleased for him though as it needed doing.

I am watching from afar. I need the head space and will see what develops. My girls are what is is important and I have always known that. I feel calm at the moment, so calm.

Thank you for all your support. I will not be posting constantly as I have said everything really.
Thanks again.

Thanks for posting again forthebest, it sounds like you're in a very different place now, that's absolutely amazing news.

You're quite right to take this time for yourself and to get some head space. I bet your life feels transformed over the coming weeks and months.

All the very best to you forthebest, hope we'll see you again on here.

Despite all the worries you must have at the moment (fingers crossed it is not MS but just malingeritis), I'm so pleased for you that he is out of your hair. How are you feeling since he left?

I am ok.
I feel quiet. Its the only way I can describe it. The ridiculous amount of drama that was whirling around me is finished.

I don't think he has MS but there is obviously something so I hope he gets it sorted for everyones sake.

I have my moments first thing in the morning when I think eeeek but I get up, get dressed, get the girls ready for school and im ok. I have slept a lot I think I needed to recharge.

Anyway, Im ok.

So happy to hear you're sleeping, recharging and putting the comfort back into your family life. I'm also pleased he's safe, for your sake - it takes a while to drop the 'caretaking' habit.
Thanks for updating
You and the DC have been very depleted, in terms of love & comfort. Enjoy putting it all back! xx

Glad the drama has died down, FTB. You've done well. There can be a weird crash when you've been running on adrenalin for so long and then suddenly it stops. Sleeping a lot is great!

FTB Glad you're OK. Thanks for updating.

FTB, I posted on your last thread and have felt guilty ever since (as they were deleted).
I'm so happy to hear your update and that something seems to be happening.

You deserve a bit of peace at this stage!

Have only lurked FTB but thought about you quite a bit and am really glad things are going well. All the best.

Ms? on a blood test? hmmm unlikely

Blood tests: There is no definitive blood test for multiple sclerosis; however, blood tests can rule out other causes for various neurologic symptoms. Some other conditions that cause symptoms similar to those of MS are Lyme disease, a group of diseases known as collagen-vascular diseases, certain rare hereditary disorders, and AIDS.
www.imaginis.com/multiple-sclerosis/diagnosis.asp

still, whatever, is his problem to sort out. some catastrophising and pity-seeking tho?

the main thing here is that you ahve him away from you and have some space to breathe, a big well done to you! may your and your DDs new life be full of happiness and calm...

stick to boundaries for contact issues - set up regular times and dont let him back in your house for a good long while...