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So I just checked out the competition on a dating website...

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poshsinglemum · 29/01/2010 07:06

And all the ladies are GEORGEOUS with lovely photpos and really exciting hobbies such as skiing, horseriding, surfing and bungee jumping and then there's me.

Single mum of one with no life at the moment as dd wants booboo all the time. Leaky boobs because of breastfeeding and no job so skint.

I want to cry. I'm applying for jobs but I feel so boring and mumsy.

All the sexy men want sexy women with no responsibilities.

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ImSoNotTelling · 30/01/2010 11:07

nannynick is lovely and helpful. and lovely.

and v good with kids obviously

gingerkirsty · 30/01/2010 11:17

Do it do it do it - IMAGINE a Mumsnet wedding, bet you could get Justine etc to pay for it for you!!!

ImSoNotTelling · 30/01/2010 11:19

Don't apply too much pressure let's let them make their own minds up.

coldtits · 30/01/2010 11:36

Oh.

ImSoNotTelling · 30/01/2010 11:42
nannynick · 30/01/2010 15:01

There's about a 100 miles between us though... mind you, fairly good train route and only a couple of hours to drive.

SallyBlue · 30/01/2010 17:55

Aw Posh

I reckon what most blokes probably want is good company, someone to share things with, some nice sex and to do some fairly simple but enjoyable things with from time to time.

What I think they probably don;t want is women who constantly "play the game" - faking they are too busy to meet up half the time because they have these fantastically busy lives watching their nailpolish dry or out getting pissed with their equally desperate mates.

I've no experience of online dating and although shortly to be single, I'm not sure I really want to try...I hate the thought of meeting someone as a competition and that seems to be what those sites are like.

skihorse · 31/01/2010 07:46

I was thinking about this thread last night and of course my two biggest hobbies are riding and skiing... I got lousy responses from dating websites. Intimidating hobbies perhaps?

ImSoNotTelling · 31/01/2010 13:01

Maybe it makes you sound expensive skihorse.

At least i understand your name now

vezzie · 31/01/2010 13:07

Posh - I am sure you are lovely and the right man will come along at the right time.
a. You are not in competition with the other women - you just happen to be sharing the site with them. When your one comes along, you will find each other.
b. My top internet dating tip: many women specify 6' men and over, even those who are 5'2", so if you just keep an open mind to the 5'9"-ers you will meet lots of gorgeous lovely men who have been rejected out of hand by so many women.

skihorse · 31/01/2010 14:05

Imsonottelling haha maybe... although what I don't spend on fashion/make-up/enormous plastic tits/orange skin pays for my hobbies. Strictly I pay, but I see where you're coming from yes.

ImSoNotTelling · 31/01/2010 14:09

Change interests to cinema and kebabs and see if your options improve !

skihorse · 31/01/2010 14:18

My interests include: eyeing up women in sports bars, 3somes with my page 3 featured best friend and meat.

OmicronPersei8 · 31/01/2010 14:39

'... and meat' [snort]

ImSoNotTelling · 31/01/2010 15:04

Now you sound like a low division footballer

BitOfFun · 31/01/2010 15:07

This thread totally disappeared on me yesterday- I want posh to come back and tell us if she is going on a date or not, instead of just moaning about it!

ImSoNotTelling · 31/01/2010 15:09

I know BOF I'm on tenterhooks too...

NormaSknockers · 31/01/2010 17:01

Maybe she's PM'd him......

poshsinglemum · 31/01/2010 18:09

Hi all. I'm back. I went out last night and tried chatting some men up in my local. As I was so out of practice it was a bit disasterous!
I was drunk and badgered one man to buy me a drink - he told me to fuck off!
It was my mate's birthday so I wasn't going iout JUST to pull. I'm awful after a few drinks. I don't think I will find my man down the pub tbh!

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BitOfFun · 31/01/2010 18:22

Well, you got an offer here- are you just going to leave him dangling then?

ImSoNotTelling · 31/01/2010 20:30

Posh come back!

Read your thread!

Scrumplet · 01/02/2010 01:30

Posh, you need to check out nannynick (and if you won't, I will! ).

Just wanted to add that, when I split up from DS's dad over two years ago, my self-esteem was rock bottom, and I thought no one would ever be interested in me again, ever.

I have since had three flings , one of these with a lovely (younger) man, who would like a Proper Relationship (eek!). I don't think he's the man for me/that I'm ready, but I feel flattered all the same.

One of these fellas, I met online. He wasn't phased by me being a mum. One other guy I met online (I have only met two - both turned out to be decent sorts), who I didn't have a sexual spark with but has become a good friend, accepts that he may not meet someone who'd like children with him, so is open-minded - positive, even - about becoming a step-dad. And the toyboy I've seen more recently, who wants something more serious, doesn't seem in the least bit put off by DS.

I'm a 31-year-old single mum of a five-year-old DS. I work part-time and, although I have a lot of interests, they're crafty and gardening-related - not remotely adventurous!

Sorry to ramble, but I just wanted to emphasise that your being a non-skiing single mum of a little one doesn't need to - and won't - stop you from meeting a Very Nice Man when the time's right. You'll be surprised.

poshsinglemum · 01/02/2010 08:19

Where can I find this Nannynick man and why is he so interested? He might not fancy me but hey a date would be fun!

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2010aQuintessentialOdyssey · 01/02/2010 08:28

well, this thread has made my morning, because I am totally flummoxed by Nickelbabe, who is saddened that her ex did not put a picture on his dating profile of ALL his chicken!

sorry but pmsl.

Good luck to you poshshinglemum, and you too nannynick!

nannynick · 01/02/2010 08:31

See my mumsnet profile for how to contact.
I'm not everyone's cup of tea, so hard to meet new people. Search my mumsnet threads and have a read, see if I'm the sort of person you might like.

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