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Frenchgranny · 28/01/2010 15:47

And this is only my second post and I am absolutely . I know that I shouldn't have but what's done is done, so...I snooped. I checked DH's "secret" email account. The one that he doesn't know that I know about. He's subscribed to a dating site. Have no idea if he has met anyone, or whether it's just for "fun". Don't really know what to do. He's always home on time and doesn't go out, he does have "meetings", but I've never really worried about them. To be honest, I don't think he would leave me but I just don't know. I go from feeling angry, to finding it laughable. (well I know what he looks like, sorry, that sounds horrible, but it's true) I know that getting to nearly 60 isn't funny, but I wonder what he would do if I did something like that?
He's also on a chat line (had a laugh at that) on which he says his name is "whatever", when it isn't. That he's single (!!!) and that he lives in (where he doesn't)....no rude or even sexually suggestive language used. He most probably comes across as boring as he now seems to me.
Sorry to be a bit long, just needed to vent and get it off my chest.
And I thought that I had heard and seen it all. Just goes to show.

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snowpoint · 28/01/2010 17:32

Hi there, didn't want you to go unanswered. Do you not feel able to ask him about what you've seen? Are you happy staying with him if he's doing this? You do have a choice in the matter you know, don't think because you may have been married a long time, or are a certain age, it means you have to tolerate anything..
If you think he's boring, maybe he can sense it..

aurynne · 28/01/2010 19:28

Frenchgranny, I do believe that it is wrong for a married person to open a dating profile... but after reading your comments about him, I honestly just wonder if you both are just made for one another. Neither of you seem to have an inkling of respect for the other.

PreRaphaeliteGirl · 30/01/2010 13:37

It sounds like he's needing an ego boost. Has he lost the things that made him feel good about himself, for example by retiring recently?

It may just be that he joined the site to feel a bit of excitement, to get some attention but would never dream of meeting anyone.

Of course, you could always join it too & ask him out! That WOULD surprise him! See the song Babooshka by Kate Bush for a story like that.

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