friendships/ hormones

[polly33]

Hi just wanted a bit of advice perpective on something, iam pregnant with my first baby and new to mumsnet. i am feeling very sensitive and emotional lately and a bit lonely. my family live in another country and i have friends here who i feel i have been through a lot with and suported them through life stuff and some with pegnancy fertility issues etc, i do think iam a good friend so why is it that now i feel they cant be arsed with my happy news and most dont even kno how many weeks i am or ask anything pregnancy related. think i am more acutely aware of this as my family not here although in contact regularily and v close. any ideas on how to deal with this as i am finding it increasingly hard to remain nice.

In the nicest possible way, it is very hard to be enthusiatic about someone else's pregnancy. Once the baby is here, they will be much more interested.

i can appreciate that but i managed to with theirs and other stuff too, isn that what friens are for?

They might just not know what to ask- I assume they have asked 'how's the bump? are you getting morning sickness? is it a boy or a girl?' and they might not want to repeat same questions over and over again. And can't think of much else to ask because they have never been pregnant themselves.

Pregnancy and birth changes YOUR life but not your friends'. I never expected people/friends to remember how many weeks I was.

You could tell them that you are feeling lonely without your family here. Maybe they would be a bit more attentive then.

Have you joined some classes such as nct or hospital classes, or pregnancy yoga or swimming? It might be the best way to meet new mates who completely understand what you are going through. Your existing mates will still be there but dont expect them to have any idea of what you are thinking/going through - it doesnt mean that they like you any less. and yes hormones have a huge role to play - they do make you feel more emotional i reckon!