Arguing friend

[MumtoEliane]

I have a friend that all she does is argue evrything I say. A couple of examples:

When she was pregnant (just 2 months behind me), conversation:

• I am using Bio-Oil for stretch marks - I said
• I don't use anythig- she said
• Don't you? But your are almost 8 months gone...
• My sister didn't use any and she doesent't have stretch marks.
• Ok.

Now, last week, 3 weeks after she had DD:

• I have to go and buy Bio-Oil - she said
• Oh have you got stretch marks?
• Loads, in my belly all down my thighs.
• Well, you should have used it before, I think.
• I was!!
• You told me you weren't.

(Put face and went quiet)

She complained all trough her pregnancy that she was in pain and hated it. We saw a pregnant woman, and she said "Oh, I pity them now" I said "I am actually quite jealous" and smiled. She said "why os that?" and I said " Because I actually enjoyed being pregnant". "So did I!" She looked annoyed that I implied the opposite...

Grrr. It makes me so angry that I don't want to go out for coffe etc. anymore, but she is part of the group, and 3 of us had babies the same year and I don't want to have to avoid her...

Any advise?

Sometimes people just irrationally annoy you. One of those things. I once worked with someone who absolutely irritated the hell out of me, it was even more difficult as I managed her so couldn't let it show at all.

Just stay away from this girl if you struggle to be pleasant. From what you've posted here, it's a personality clash - you're over reacting to her and be conscious of that when you do have to see her otherwise you run the risk of looking a bit bitchy to people who don't understand the dynamic.

Thanks snowpoint, that is a lot more how I feel.

Work on making your own decisions ("I used it because a friend told me too") and less about calling her on anything she says that contradicts a previous comment. Very exhausting. Just chill.

OFGS! Oh OP, if only you could be as perfect as many of the people who have replied as clearly they have never:

taken advice
given advice
reccommended anything to a friend
confided in a friend/group of friends
felt patronised
pointed out a fact to someone who is wrong
found someone annoying

I'd say try and spend time with the members of the group you do like. You sound pretty tight knit, but perhaps try introducing something into your week that isn't just with your spanish friends.

This way you have something going on where you can widen your circle of friends and also, while you are doing your own thing, the other group members have an opportunity to spend time with the girl who you are finding difficult.

It will minimise the amount of time you have to spend with her and hopefully minimise any awkwardness for them too x

Thanks Astrid! The others don't feel akward cos they know how she is, honestly. Today I was going to meet just one but she called, and I said, "Its ok, I'll just ignore any comments", they understand, and she came and it was ok, so posting here helped if anyone wanted to know

Work on making your own decisions ("I used it because a friend told me too") and less about calling her on anything she says that contradicts a previous comment.

Honestly, if I have a mate who didn't have stretch marks after her pregnancy, even if its due to her genes, I am going to try what she used! wouldn't you? Even more when I didn't have a clue where to start...

I do have local friends, but they mostly go out drinking at nights which is fun, and I meet them for lunch too. Is just that 3 of us (spanish) have babies so are off during the week, and this is a veeery small place, if we are in town, we are going to see each other.