Does it get easier?

[MrsWillis]

Been having a few problems with DH for months but if I am honest I shut myself away from everyone and couldn't see it properly.

Last week he told me that he didn't think he loved me anymore and moved out for some space. He came back after a day but things just weren't right anymore.

He moved out for good on sunday but a few days before that I found out that he had been texting another woman since the end of Dec. This has totally broken me.

I knew we were having problems and I think we might have separated eventually anyway but I just can't deal with the fact that he wants someone else and not me.

We have only been married for 2 years and been together for 6 years. I just always thought we would be able to work things out. I know it's still early days but I am really struggling. Sometimes I am fine but then I break down for nothing.

I can see now what I was doing before but it's too late now and there is nothing I can do to get him back.

Not really sure why I am posting this, I just want some reasurrance (sp) that the hurt will ease and things will get easier. I know this will be good for me too and we are still very good friends but it's still hard for me to come to terms with.

I have been with him since I was 16 so never lived alone before and I am finding the loneliness quite difficult too.

Sorry that doesn't make much sense.

It will get easier. It really will. If you have been with him since you were 16 then you have not had time to find out who you really are and what you really want out of life. It hurts a lot now but the pain will ease, you are only 22 now with a whole world of potential great things in front of you (TBH anyone getting out of a relationship has a world of potential great things in front of them, there is so much more to life than clinging on to a non-functioning relationship).
Be kind to yourself right now, ask your friends/family for support (and there's always MN to vent on) - if it helps, ask your XP politely to keep his distance for a while and only communicate regarding access to DC and the practicalities of the situation, however good friends you are it's often a bit painful to spend too much time communicating with someone immediately after a split.
Best of luck. Today is the first day of feeling a tiny bit better than yesterday, and tomorrow will be a tiny bit better still, and so on.

Thank you for your reply.

I try talking my friends and family but they just keep going on about what a bad person he is and how wrong he has been but I understand why he has left and I don't blame him for it. I don't blame myself either, we just drifted apart.
I honestly don't blame him for texting someone else, I pushed him away in the past few months and treated him awfully. Not in an abusive way, just no emotion or affection.

I can see now that he tried his hardest to work at it but in the end he just gave up.

I know these things happen for a reason and I need to keep going for our DC but it's at night when I am on my own that it creeps up on me again. I know this will do me the world of good and hopefully I will be able to become a better person for it. I just really miss him right now.

It's good that you are aware of where you could have done things better, but please don't carry all the blame for things going wrong.

He chose to get involved with someone else, that was his conscious choice and I can see your friends and family's point of view, they just want to protect and support you.

Yes, it will and does get easier. It's horrible initially and really I guess he must have been your first true love which makes it a double whammy. Focus on each day at a time..