This is really complicated but i need some support that i have done the right. A couple months ago i dated a guy that i knew from way back this was in august it was great then i noticed after a week in he was telling me that he loved me . i had been in a abusive relationship before and read in a book that i was given about abuse that this was one of the signs when they come on really strong . I mean he was nice to the kids wouls make me breakfast in bed everything give me the affection i needed i thought this is great i am so happy he was so considerate and we had a really great sex life . then he said to me one day that he wanted to spend the rest of his life wit me. i thought shit. then he said he wanted to get married then i found out that he was a illegal imagrant and a overt stayer in the uk.i took action.
i tried to use my brain on him to work him out i said to him that i would marry him but in 3 years time then i would have got to know him better and we would have built a foundation that would be crucial for a successful marriage. then i found a letter that said that he was 27 years old had been in the country for 6 years and was to hand himself over to immigration for deportation.
when i bought this to his attention the guy slowly started to distance him self from me with holds sex and got really rude hanging up phone on me and putting me down. Now he was not5 working so at the time i would give him food helped him fix his car and made sure he was ok but as soon as i found out his status i told him that he needs to get a lawyer to sort himself out but i will not be marrying him as i worked out what he was doing.he dumped me . then he would call me and say i am so broke i got no money my car needs insuring. i ignored him and kept telling him that i was busy . then i got a call from him saying that he had arrested by the border force and that he had to sign on at the police station i and that he is going to pay some one to marry him and sort himself out as he has no intention of going back to his country . he has started to befriend his other children's mum who he mentally tore to shreds and play the good father so that he can get his papers. i do not understand why he is telling me this i realise that he just wants to drive me crazy so much more has been done to me by this guy he said that he does not want me as he is moving on to bigger and better things i thought we are not together. i really think his mad but i feel so stupid to allow a germ like this into my life to try and do me over.he wants to pay some one to marry him which is totally wrong what do i do . do i tell the uk border force which i do not even no how to do or do i just forget him its just that this guy as been abusing both his kids mum and me and i feel that he needs to be chucked out the country . i am so angry at the moment been i tears help what do i do.the next thing is that his children's mum one of them he has been beating up . i said to him that you tried to use me he said that he is not like that no one will believe me as everyone knows that he is a nice person. i said the classic talk of a abuser. please give me some advise as right now i just want this disgusting piece of rubbish gone. sorry about the long post .