DP's stress at work is causing probs in our relationship

[riojaguzzler]

Hi,

I just need some advice on how to handle my current situation. Dp is currently under so much pressure at work that basically all he does is work- weekends and until stupid o'clock in the morning! It's been like this for the last 12 months and although he is trying to change the situtaion- by looking for a new job- it's having a big impact on our relationship. Sex is pretty much never- he's just not interested :-( and I'm the one left feeling like a single parent to our 2 yr old daughter. I know that he still loves us both- but he's struggling to please everyone and obviously, has to continue to work to pay the bills. Does anyone have any ideas to help him through his stress, whilst trying to stay happy myself?! Thanks!!

I know it is really tough - my DP is under a lot of pressure in his target-driven job.
I am a SAHM so he has the financial burden of the household at the moment and there was a point where he was getting really stressed and it was impacting on our homelife/sexlife and his relationship with DD.
He has taken a long hard look at things and has realised a new job is the only answer as things can't go on the way they are (for any of us!) and I have offered to work part-time to ease the pressure, although he has said this isn't necessary at the moment.

The good news is you know he still loves you and you also know he is doing it with the best of intentions. Better still he is already looking for a new job so he obviously isn't happy with things the way they are either and is obviously committed to you, your relationship and your family.

I guess my only advice is to keep on communicating and just weather the storm - that is all I am able to do at the moment - as well as making sure things run as smoothly as possible at home so any time we do spend together is positive (it's amazing what half an hour of 'In the night garden' time for DD each day has done for our relationship too - available on BBCiplayer at ANY time of the day! ).

Hope it all works out for you x

Thanks Ruthie- it's good to know that someone who is/was in a similar positition is managing to work through it!

I love the wonders the Night Garden can do- I just don't know if I'll be able to utilise that time to my advantage as sometimes it's a challenge to get him to sit and eat a meal!

You're lucky to be a SAHM, I've just recently gone back to full time teaching and so that adds to the pressure! But I guess on the flipside of it all you have the stress of keeping things ticking over at home...

Grrrrrr to targets!!! Let's just cross our fingers for some new jobs!!!