What's wrong with me

[shinybaubles]

I know this isn't as serious as some other problems on here but have no other idea where to post.
I had ds 2 on Christmas Eve and for the last week or so have been feeling really disconnected from dh, just feel really ambivalent towards him, we have spoken about this and when he asks if I love him I don't say I do although the truth is at the moment I don't know. I know I am not explaining this very well - it just feels like he's not important to me and doesn't matter - I know how horrible this sounds. He thinks I am just tired - I am tired but that's not it. What's wrong with me? I am almost prepared to say it's over between us but am aware how ridiculous that sounds when nothing has happened. All I know is this is making me so sad, I am crying about it and feel heartbroken at the thought of this being the end for us. And I am so aware of how much I must be hurting him by not saying I love him and I don't want to hurt him.

I know people have bigger problems on here so if there is a better place to post please feel free to point me there.

see your health visitor - it sounds like post natal depression. I think what you are describing is not abnormal in any way and your hormones are all over the place.

Good luck

I think this is pretty normal. I think many of us feel like this about our OH's after the second/ third / fourth child is born.

Youve got baby and another child. You just want OH to sort themselves out and would be lovely if they made you tasty meals, bought you cups of tea and sorted the laundry. You haven't the energy to look after them too.

But it is temporary. I think the first 3 months are the worst but once Spring appears you'll feel brighter.

But as already said - chat with your HV so they help you and monitor how you feel.

Sorry you feel like this. As others have said speak with your HV.

I think it's pretty normal what you're feeling and as PP siad it is temporary, the first 3 months after having my DD2 I couldn't have cared less if DH walked out the door and never came home (I told him that quite often too, in between tears and tantrums!), sleep deprivation is a lot more difficult to handle than most people realise.

I love my DH to bits, always have, just didn't realise it for that 3 month period. I think the key is to talk, talk and talk some more to your DH and work on it together. Once you stop talking then that's when things will go wrong, ime.

DD2 is 2 now and things between me and DH are as good as they've ever been (he can still be annoying somtimes but can't they all?!)

Good luck, congratulations on the arrival of your baby.

I am talking to dh just worried that I am hurting him in doing so.
Thanks for replying - I didn't thing it was pnd since everything else is ok, I guess I wil wait for it to pass then am not living in the UK at the moment and don't have a health visitor or equivalent, don't even have a gp at the moment.