Husband not sure he wants baby

[pandw]

I am 17 weeks pregnant. First baby. We were trying for a baby (at my husband's suggestion, though i guess that doesn't matter now) and were both pleased when I fell pregnant. Now my husband has taken a mood and announced that he is 'p-d off' that I am pregnant and not sure whether he wants a baby or not (bit late now!).
I wondered if anybody else had been through this, and could offer words of advice or encouragement. Maybe he's just having a bit of a panic and will get over it?

it is normal to feel panic. He has been unkind though in saying he is p'ed off that you are pregnant. As you say, it's a bit late now..

Can you sit down together and get him to talk about whats worrying him? There are also lots of books about pregnancy with chapters for dads-to-be, or books even written specifically for the men.

Get him to see that you need to support each other through this.

He sounds like a right knob to be fair

My friend's husband panicked when she was pregnant with their first child and disappeared for a while (she knew where he was). They'd planned the baby but the reality of it completely threw him and I think he wasn't there when her DS was born (her choice). It was all sorted out in the end and they are really happy and expecting number 2.

Well, you read on here women saying that they are unaccountably shocked and horrified when they find themselves pregnant. It's a shock when the reality suddenly hits home.

On the one hand, at least he is being honest with her, on the other he is a wanker for not supporting her.

I would be inclined to allow him the teeniest bit of leeway for a short while until he gets over himself.

went through it with both dd's. hubbie who is usually very calm and level headed even started waking at four in morning and pacing round house ranting about how we couldn't possibly have a baby!

totally different reaction when both were born and admits he would never be without them!