Husband moves out of bedroom

[memorylane]

because I have the window open - not too much. He says its nor fair, he's cold so has gone to the spare room and is staying them for the time being. I think this is really hurtful and I have questioned him about it. Is there someone else, something you are not telling me. He says not. I don't know what to do, I think it is creating a distance between us, we hardly ever and mean hardly ever have sex. I have the window open because I am suffering night sweats (menopausal), he says its an excuse.

Thank you Becausei'mworthit, but it seems to be too late to save my relationship. He really is the most un understanding man ever. He wanted to leave when I had pnd, now its the menopause

It sounds like the window is just a symptom of a bigger problem - basically it sounds like your H wants to leave the marriage. Given what you have posted, would that really be so bad? It might be a good idea to sit down and talk from the starting position of: this relationship is not working, let's be civilised about putting an end to it, let's remember that we care about each other and our family and try to be fair.

Good advice from SGB.

Oh gosh only just seen this.
How are you OP?

Got to bed at 4.30am this morning as I tried to have it all out with DH. At first he was reluctant to talk, he wanted to sleep WTF, this is important. To cut a very long story short, I ended up, yet agai, wearing my heart on my sleeve and admitting I loved him and wanted to carry on etc, thhe response I got was that all the arguments are my fault, I continually hurt him because I am rude and he doesnt know if he wants to carry on. So that cleared the air NOT.

How's the day been today OP - any better?

So its business as normal, DH is carrying on as if there is nothing wrong. Another one dusted under the carpet. I have calmed down and am just getting on with life. Will be nice and see what the next couple of weeks bring and see if he moves back to the bedroom. I do hope so.