Bit low at the mo, come and tell me either the crap stuff about being with someone, or the good stuff about being single!

[thesouthsbelle]

cos right now am feeling v v low.

had a final fight with chappy was seeing, totally over now.

feeling quite down cos all I want is a happy home a nice loving husband/partner n a stable home life - I know it's sad but hey hi, indulge me for a bit.

yeah but how do u learn to be alone again, n more importantly be happy n content?

you need to look at the slippers thread!

slippers thread?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/893050-Being-single-is-ok-Bring-me-my-slippers

just had a look, lol. has cheered me up n reminded me of the good stuff about being single. I worry thou at 28, already I feel middle aged n have zero hope of meeting someone nice settling down n having more kids.

I'm 39, and am about to be single for the first time in 15 years - very scarey but it can't be as bad as being in loveless marriage (may not be saying that when I'm sad lonely singleton - he he !)

Just feel that life shouldn't be soo hard, and that I need to learn to laugh again, with friends.

I think being single means that you can suit yourself and DC, and not have to walk on eggshells the whole time.

I also think that being single can be exciting - I'm in the process of planning a girls plus children holiday for later in the year - yey a week of just being with friends and children, not having to pander to my H's plans and stroppy teenager type behaviour.

I'm sure there are some sad and dark days ahead, but I am determined to be happy and single.

Maybe your just in the raw stage of your relationship breakdown, give it some time, be kind to yourself and plan some lovely things to look forward to.

Take care

HI SouthsBelle

Being single really isn't that bad!
I've been single on and off for past 8 years, and been on my own with DD almost from the start. You have loads and loads of time to still meet someone else and find that happy home.

Meantime, don't waste time wallowing. I've done that before and it really doesn't do you any good. Find new things you love about life art classes/ new job/ re-training/ go on internet dates if you fancy trying your luck again.

But don't worry about it. Life really is too short and it is sooo much better to be alone than trapped in an awful loveless relationship or putting up up with a twunt.

Tell yourself it's alright to actually be on your own. Because there are loads of us and it is !

I know it's totally pathetic as well - this chappy's been messing with my head for ages/me about blowing hot n cold - but in all honesty it's the first time i've felt this way about any one since XH. (we've been split for about 2.5 years)

am starting uni in September FT hopefully so roll on that eh! - might actually get a life then