Want to be accomodating but he's taking his time moving out

[farmvilleaddict]

I called an end to my 8 yer relationship on saturday. Its been a long and windy road of ups and downs (more downs than ups).

So he said he would speak to his mum about moving home for a while. Its now monday and he hasn't said a word to her. I know he could be moved out in a few hours if he really wants to. He's off work today so i would imagine its the perfect opportunity.

Instead he's dragging his heels (as always) and i really want to be understanding, afterall he is the one having to leave. But at the same time i want to be able to breath again IYKWIM. I want him out of my hair so i can greive myself and start to move on.

start packing for him?

get all his bags and cases out.....say 'come on,i'll help you'

hand him the phone to call his mum.

you kow he's not going to do this without a push. is he likely to get violent though?

No no not at all.

I did offer to start packing for him yesterday but didn't get round to it because LO has been unwell.

I just want this part to be over so we can both start to get on with it. And yet i don't want to sound cruel and heartless by pushing him.

its not cruel....your other thread makes me think he's dragging his heels though,because he's thinking you're a bit of a pushover. i think the actual leaving is the hardest bit....in the end it was me and the kids that went,easier that way

Well he is finally gone. It was sooo awkward when i came home from work. He'd been watching DS for me today as he is ill. And he made dinner (shock).

Thought he was going to try to talk me round to letting him stay whenever he said he'd made dinner but thankfully he didn't. I was out this evening at a class so when i came home he got his stuff and went.

So this is my first night alone (eek). Mind you, i have to say its not as bad as i thought it would be. I've never lived alone. However i've felt alone for a very long time.

This might seem strange but i actually can't wait to get finished work on wed so i can come home and clean the apartment from top to bottom. Its not like he repulsed me or anything, i just want a clean fresh start. hope that makes sense?

Good for you Farmville! So very pleased you had the courage to follow through. Give yourself a treat and if you can afford it, "feminise" your house a bit (new bed linen etc.) The only way is up!

Oh well done!!!! The future's bright.

Ohhhhhhhh new bed linen! I did that when I got away from x. Such a nice feeling getting into bed in new linen chosen by just you

may now start a row with Dh to get bed to self and re-live bed linen libaration