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dating while lusting after someone else

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littlebitconfused · 17/01/2010 22:36

Im totally lusting after someone. Im not sure if/when its ever going to happen. Its on the cards and seems to be moving towards happening.. but its kind of been there before and then not happened.

I always think that thats it and im done with it. But i really cant helpmyself. He is just amazing. should it ever happen it would just be incrediable.

last week when i was having one of my ' walk away and stop waitsting so much time' momments i asked my friends to set me up with some single males. SOme of them gave my email address and ive had a few emails. Ive been asked out by 3 men.

It seems like we might get on. I sort of thnk tehre is no harm in meeting for just one date. but, i know its very unlikely that im going to like them that way.

I was sort of hoping that i might meet someone who would totally distract me from the one im lusting over. But i cant see that happening.

am i out of order? or not?

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MamaMimi · 17/01/2010 23:03

Of course you are not out of order.

You don't know if anything will happen with your object of desire(!) so get out there and see if there are other people you might get along with/fancy.

Just view your dates as a night out and a bit of fun when someone else will be giving you their attention. It's not as if when you see these people it has to lead to something else - that's what dates are all about isn't it, getting to know someone to decide if either of you would like it to become more.

It also doesn't mean you have to put the other guy out of your head, you can still work on him at the same time. But it may just happen that you meet someone else that can distract you from him.

Go for it and have fun!

MamaMimi · 17/01/2010 23:04

Of course you are not out of order.

You don't know if anything will happen with your object of desire(!) so get out there and see if there are other people you might get along with/fancy.

Just view your dates as a night out and a bit of fun when someone else will be giving you their attention. It's not as if when you see these people it has to lead to something else - that's what dates are all about isn't it, getting to know someone to decide if either of you would like it to become more.

It also doesn't mean you have to put the other guy out of your head, you can still work on him at the same time. But it may just happen that you meet someone else that can distract you from him.

Go for it and have fun!

MamaMimi · 17/01/2010 23:05

Sorry for posting twice, not sure what happened there

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