filing for divorce from abusive ex husband

[dizzy55]

Anyone got any advice on divorcing an abusive ex husband? I have just filed for divorce, and haven't a clue whats ahead other than I don't think he will agree to the divorce just to spite me. We have been seperated for 3 years. He is totally irresponsible, hugely paranoid and is prone to making wild accusations in order to get what he wants. He is extremely intimidating.

I suppose ultimately I am worried he will put together a case against me. In additon I am worried he will find out where we live. I have have considered taking out an injuction against him in the past, but am so scared of making him more angry.

My children haven't seen their father since the split, and hes made no attempt to contact them, other than threatening me which is why he no longer knows where we live.

This has been a highly stressful three years, and I kind of feel things are going to have to get worse before they get better.Having had a totally 'normal' prior to this, its rather a shock to find myself in such a mess.

any positive words appreciated.

hi dizzy, from what I understand he won't really be able to prevent you getting a divorce. Since you've been separated for over 2 years, you can file on those grounds alone, it makes things a little easier. If he fails to respond, I think there is a way that you can still proceed.

Don't worry at all about the case he'll put together against you, it will not be taken seriously.

Could you contact WomensAid for some advice? They might be able to recommend some lawyers with experience in this area.

You can sue on the grounds of 2 years separation with his consent (non-objection) otherwise it's 5 years. Unreasonable behaviour grounds can get you a divorce more quickly. He could counter sue but that would only prove the marriage is irrevocably over.

thanks for advice.much appreciated. will contact womens aid.