My perfect dh.

[darkandstormy]

I am so lucky to be married to the most kindest loving and generous man he would do absolutely anything for me and our children. I am amazed at the grief so many posters have due to the actions of their other halves.Prior to being married many years ago I had some crap experiences at the hands of selfish others just a message girls dont let these arses walk over you be assertive and always keep in mind everone deserves to give and a accept 100 % respect from others just thought I would say this thats all.

not that simple when you're stuck in one of those relationships tho,is it??!

Well thats nice for you op but the trouble with abusive relationships is that they are not always abusive, some of the time the abusers are pretty good to be around and thats how they keep you hooked in. There is an awful lot more going on in abusive relationships than a bit of selfish behaviour and in some of these relationships a bit of assertiveness will get you a good hiding. Just though I would say thats all .

I am lucky I have never put up and shut up ...sorry

I am not being a smug wind up by the way I just realise I am lucky and a relationships forum should have some good stories along with the not so good

I put up & shut up for a great many years, I actually knew it was a mistake a week before the wedding but felt I couldn't dissappoint everyone....that's another story. It restores my faith in relationships to hear that there are people who are in good, happy & healthy relationships.

I think that all relationships of course have ups and downs its crappy January lets hear some good stories positive ones Brightwell I know what you mean on that score have friends who did similar.

i hear you darkandstormy. i dont' think you're being smug. I walked away from an abusive man with the clothes on our backs. I wish i had a husband like yours! your lucky!

i have since found a dp like the op has...bad experiences change you,not as simple as 'put up and shut up'

A thread entitled My perfect DH does come over as slightly smug Darknstormy.

Much as I adore my DH, he is in no way "perfect", he's human with flaws and I wouldn't have him any other way - we've muddled through 25 years of marriage and have a pretty perfect life together but we as individuals are far from perfect.

We had a long running thread about how great our husbands are not so long ago too btw.

It's not all doom and gloom on here, thankfully.

Oh, good for you.

Enjoy!

Oooh Dark and Stormy I'd have been too scared to start that thread, my mum always told me that pride comes before a fall and I always seem to prove that particular proverb right.

My husband is not perfect, we are both flawed human beings. We've had our ups and downs and fortunately the ups now far outweigh the downs.

We're currently on an up and have been for quite a while. When we're on an up I feel like the cat that got the cream. I look at him with the kids and I feel like my heart might burst.

I feel very lucky right now, but who knows what waits for us, lurking around the corner ready to pounce just as we least expect it. Probably just waiting till I boast about how lucky I am to someone no doubt.

But yes, I agree that on this forum a reminder that there are many good, decent, hardworking, loving men out there who treat women and children well can only be a good thing.

It is sad that the written word and the spoken word can be so misconstrued believe me I am in no way smug the use of the word perfect was meant to be an irony of the fact that no one is perfect but some like my dh try their very best to be especially in their treatment of others the post is a testament to him and to the 100% gentleman he is..

bloodyright I agree with you re the pride comes before a fall I am enjoying our relationship for the now. As you rightly say we do not know what is around the corner. I did not see the other thread but I am glad others are discussing positive stories. I think I shall now stick to the chat section where things arn't quite so erm heaaavy....

I don't do men anymore and am very happy about that. Out of 20 friends and acquientances (wrong spelling) 17 have been abused, one had a broken rib that pierced her lung and nearly killed her, one was battered 3 hours before her c section, one had her whole thigh bruised after being beaten with a plank of wood. The sense of entitlement a lot of men have is sickening. And if they don't abuse, they'll have a "mid life crisis" and shag someone else. 8 out of 10 of them are wankers. Hope you're with one who stays decent OP

Re your post above mine, sorry

maybe she means 'perfect for her'?!

Jesus junglist!

However I don't agree that 8 out of 10 men are bad uns - perhaps some women are better at choosing decent men than others, it's not all one sided.

All the men in our family are decent hardworking men who love their family, there has been only one divorce in over 25 years out of over a dozen couples ranging in age of mid 40's ( me and DH who are the eldest of the "clan") to early 30's at the younger end - no ones parents are divorced either.

Nothing nicer than a real man who knows what life's about, and how to act. Am genuinely pleased for anyone who has that. It must be nice for the children aswell.