Just need to vent

[Roopoo]

I just need a rant really...

Me and DH have a 9 month old DD..
Before we had her we never really argued etc..
For the last couple of months it's all we seem to do... Never have anytime alone together never do anything together.. DH doesn't like leaving her with people so we never get to be a couple..
Haven't been on a date since she was born..
He is arsey and off with me... Im the same with him though
We never have sex and if we do it's really rushed incase we disturb DD..

I do love him.. but he irritates me and annoys me and Im resentful a lot of the time I do everything ironing cleaning cooking and I am back at work 4 days a week now and he still doesn't help..

If I ask him to do anything he treats it like Im being unreasonable..

I used to idolise my DH and now he just pisses me off....

Rant over thanks !!

Hi Roopoo.

Although it's difficult to get time together, strikes me that time away from DD is definitely what you need.

Do you have any family that you could leave the DD with so that you could have a night away together every now and then? Think your DH has somehow got to get over leaving DD with someone.

Not only is he not allowing you two to have couple time, but he is lazy too!

Having breasts does not make you more capable of housework. I am sure he is capable of hoovering or doing the dishes as much as you are.

No wonder you're pissed off. You're in a suffocating environment with no opportunity for time out.

Does he know that you didn't buy into this as being what you wanted from a relationship? Can you tell him that you used to idolise him and now you feel resentment? Shake him into some action.

going to try and broach the subject tonight when DD is in bed
Thanks for the advice..

My parents would love to have dd but DH feels like we are missing out on her if she isn't with us ....

Roopoo - all I'm going to say is that my h (not dh) thinks that noone is capable of looking after ds 3.5 apart from us - us means ME.

Do you want to be in this situation further down the line

I feel my my h takes love from ds rather than give love as if he really looked after ds's needs he'd see that ds would benefit from parents who had other lives (ie a couple) rather than just little parent slaves.

Your dh is doing your lo no favours at all and I wonder if he is a love taker rather than love giver.