Changed my name for this due to the sensitivity of the topic, hope you can understand and that MN HQ respect the privacy! I have recently become increasingly friendly with a girl who has a child of the same age as mine. It has been great to share our experiences together and support each other, as she also lives nearby and having met by chance I was really pleased I had found such a good friend.
However as the friendship has progressed and we find more and more out about each other I am beginning to find her more than a little odd. She has several issues and problems, which I do not have a problem with in itself at all. Just when looking at the bigger picture I begin to question it all.
She now calls me at all times of the night,(up to about 1 am) and has become quite needey and always wants to meet up. I'm always a bit more laid back about these things, I enjoy my own company and don't really enjoy rushing about too much with my baby.
She spent around 10 years desperately TTC, yet at the same time also suffered from an eating disorder where she claims she was a size 6 attending weight watchers. She says she used to get weighed in her coat which she weighs down with stones in order to make her weight appear more.
The thing that has really baffled me is her partners mysterious trip away. On the phone she told me he was going away but that she could not say where or why. When I met up with her she brought the subject up again and stated that she didn't realise that his job in the CID could lead to a position such as this. I joked that it sounded like MI5 and she just looked at me and said 'hmmm' in a way to make me think that I was right.
Moving on to a few days later on a night out when we both got very tipsy, she boached the subject again, saying she couldn't believe how low paid his new position in MI5 was. I asked how he had come to be working there, and she then said that she also used to work for them .
I'm really confused, the two reasons she gives for him doing this conflict and surely any employee, even an ex employee, couldn't be so indiscreet? Earlier on in the evening she told me in her work (claiming a different occupation) she earnt double the wage she quoted her partner would be earning.
I think she must be a compulsive liar. I could be wrong but I find it unlikely. She is a beautiful, intelligent young woman and I don't see why she would feel she has to make these things up, but I am finding it hard to think of what to make of it all. I am thinking of backing off, and yet at the same time enjoy seeing her and her baby, and we do get on, we have lots in common. Has anyone out there got any opinions/ solutions to this? And do you think she is telling porkies?