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DH going back to over-eating, worried

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FoodTheDevil · 16/01/2010 14:55

When DH and I first met he was a bit overweight. He's always liked his food and ate more than the average person.
After we married, he started eating much more and it got to the point where he'd have a massive fry-up for breakfast every morning, Extra large Mcdonalds meals for lunch and a huge dinner (piled high with sausages and mash etc) and THEN he'd get a massive take-away most nights too, sometimes even ordering 2 meals for himself. He'd eat tons of crisps, chocolate, cakes etc during the day too and before long he reached 29 stone.
He tried every diet going from atkins to weight watchers and he just couldn't stop himself from eating. After a consoultation with a doctor, who was concerned for his heart, he was put forward for a gastric bypass.

This was two years ago he had it done and in those two years he has lost 16 stone in weight. Basically because he's had no choice but to limit his food intake.

However, in the past few months I have noticed his appetite increasing rapidly. It started with his portion sizes growing bigger, biscuits and crisps going down fast in the cupboards, take-aways every week ... now it just seems to be repeating itself from two years ago.

Yesterday he ate a packet of crisps for his breakfast, a full pack of sushi for his lunch - and then a double cheese burger and medium fries from McDonalds for lunch ... another packet of crisps mid-afternoon, a few biscuits, a steak burger, beans and cheese for dinner, a quarter of mince-meat pie for afters, a ig bar of chocolate for supper and then he was saying he was starving and did I fancy a take-away.

This morning he had breakfast and then made himself a cheese toastie before admitting that he couldn't actually eat it, he'd just made it up automatically because it was there and he fancied it.

He's still losing weight which is why I think he is under a false sense of security thinking he can eat what he wants and lose weight but he's eating more than me again and its bordering on excessive. before long the weight will start creeping back on.

He won't listen to me, says I'm nagging etc but I don't want to see him grow massive again and from a selfish point of view, I don't want to share my life with a greedy pig again either.

I thought all that was behind us. Am I lacking understanding or being shallow or what? I just can't understand how he hasn't learnt his lesson from the first time. Its so frustrating.

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NotQuiteCockney · 16/01/2010 15:49

Overeating generally has a psychological basis. Has he had any counselling for his weight? Would he consider it?

I doubt hassling him about the overeating will help, tbh, although it must be terribly frustrating to watch.

serenityplease · 16/01/2010 19:25

Look up the overeaters anonymous website. It's the answer to his problems but it has to be him making the first step. you will find literature for families though.

SolidGoldBrass · 16/01/2010 19:32

He needs psychological help which you can't give him - not only are you not, or at least I assume you're not, a counsellor/psychiatric professional specialising in eating disorders, but people with any kind of addiction or MH issue have a remarkable ability to dismiss and ignore anything said by close family.
Sadly, you can't force him to have counselling, same as you can't force him to stop eating so much. WHat you can do is work out how to minimize its impact on you/the household and decide if it's something you can live with, or not. If you do give him an ultimatum (seek help or I leave) then make sure you're prepared to follow it through.

skymoo · 16/01/2010 22:37

Don't buy any of the bad stuff - if it isn't there, he can't have it!

Get him low fat crackers and cheese spreads in place of the crisps, and healthy granola bars etc

If he is extra peckish, would he eat porridge?

Pikelit · 17/01/2010 14:39

Agree about not buying the bad stuff. But if he has had a gastric bypass, how does his stomach cope with what sounds like a worrying amount of food?

It's a psychological problem for sure and I would have thought he had a counselling as part of the gastric bypass surgery so perhaps suggest he gets referred for more?

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