i feel like my relationship is crumbling at my feet. i have been with my partner for 8 years. It wasn't the best of starts and its been a rocky road. We have a DC together and currently live together.
We;ve had to start therapy because of our problems. For months now i have felt like he has a constant chip on his shoulder with me. And yet he is friendly and chirpy with everyone else. Its a battle to get him to help me out around the house, its like he assumes its his job to work and mine to look after the house (even though i work myself, elbeit 20 hours a week).
Its a total nightmare, i've asked him to stay with his mum for a while to see what is wrong with him. but he refuses to go. This house is rented in my name and therefore i feel its him should go and leave me and DC here. If we went to stay with my dad DC and i would be sharing a very small box room.
Its got to the stage where i asked him last night in bed if he still loved me. His response was that it was a ridiculous question. I said i didn't think so. he's become really mean, sarcastic, passing remarks on my appearance etc (hates that i've cut my hair short). There has been no sex for months (i think the last time was in october). I've tried naughty underwear, romantic dinners, saucy texts etc. Nothing. He keeps making these remarks about my hair (sarcastic he says but i'm not so sure anymore) being crazy, he's too tired, its coz we're having problems etc.
This is the guy who used to be carefree, fun-loving, caring. He used to bring home champagne, DVD's, takeaways, flowers. Now there's nothing. I can't even get him to bring me home a pint of milk.
I feel like its got to the stage where there is so much resentment and anger that i don't know if it can be fixed. Many times i wonder if i'd be better off alone. Trouble is, when you have a child to him, its never going to be that siimple.
I'm plagued with self doubt and lack of confidence and i feel unable to make this decision by myself. I'd really appreciate any advice you can give x