I am being oversensitive aren't I? So why do I feel so crap?

[poshsinglemum]

I have a really good friend who I have known for years from school and we both have daughters around about the same age.
She is with her dd's dad but they have a huge amount of problems and are very on and off. At the moment they are more off.
From the start whenever my mate comes round to mine she always goes on about how much her dd loves her daddy, how much she misses him, and she often phones him up so that dd can talk to her daddy. Of course this is sweet but sometimes i feel that she makes a big issue of it.
It always makes me feel crap that dd dosn't know her daddy.
I know that I am being very unreasonable as I can't avoid mum friends on the basis that their kids have lovely dads and they like to talk about them. I mean it's totally natural isn't it? But I just feel so sad.
Once the same friend texted me a joke about dads which I didn't find funny at all and tbh a bit . I just feel a bit wierd. She has been here all morning and now she has gone I feel down.I am always there for her when her man is being a dick which is fairly regularly.

I think I need a thicker skin.

Sounds like she needs to reassure herself that dickhead hubby is OK really.

Sounds like you need to improve your changing-the-subject skills

or when she is going on about what a fab dad he is say 'just as well, given that he '{insert example of last time's moan)
maybe she will discover a bit of tact

I don't think it's "totally natural" for a woman to behave like that around a friend who is a single mother. Not all mums in partnerships act like that, they really don't.

i don't think it's natural either. i don't go on and on about my kids dad, and i definitely wouldn't if i knew a good friend was in your situation!
she needs to learn a bit of tact

nope not natural at all IMHO, my dds all love their dads but have never asked to speak to him during the day etc

so im not a mentalist am i? i think she's competing tbh and also a bit of trying to reassure herself. she's not happy and i can't stand him. i just feel drained as i was there for her when he was being abusive but she insists on competing. i just know that im going to find this friendship hard work.

so many of my girl friends end up competing and i find it draining and annoying. i just want some decent bloody mates who i can have a laugh with, im meeting a lot of nice new mums ans some are single so i guess i'll be ok.

ive told her i hate her bloke because of the way he's treated her.

one handed typing.

also i have lots of married mum friends who mention their husbands in passing but don't make an issue of it. i don't mind them at all. they are lovely.

Sounds like she is competing, and trying to remind herself that she does have a husband (ignoring the fact he's shit). She should be aware that you may be a bit sensitive about the fact that your dd doesn't know her dad and not go on about it so much, even if it does make her feel better about herself.

He's not her husband btw.They don't even live together. I do love my mate and I sympathise with her situation.

She sounds really desperate to make out that their relationship is going somewhere, it's really sad actually. Her poor dd would appear to be a bit of a pawn.